Sleep training

Would you leave your baby alone for an hour in the middle of the day to “figure it out” ??

Is sleep training neglectful?

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Based off an Instagram post I saw by @ untamedmothering

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Idk who said it's neglectful but it's quite the opposite...if your baby is fed, changed, and has no fever and you've given them all the snugs and they're still unhappy after that and want to scream...it's not neglect.

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Yes, the cry it out method is neglectful.

You should clarify which sentence is your question, because they contradict eachother and so I don't know what my "yes" or "no" is answering.

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Well yes I do believe cry it out method is neglectful so I pressed yes but if your initial question is would I leave my baby to figure it out no, I would not.

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I sleep trained. Would never in a million years let my baby cry for an hour.

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Are we assuming letting them figure it out means crying?

I used to “let them figure it out” during naptime with like hot wheels and stuff in the bed they were in their sleep sack playing with toys quietly. I’d do that for an hour. They’re not napping but they’re not just screaming.

No, you should never leave a child screaming for an hour. But sure why not do an hour of quiet time for them to entertain them selves and have low stimulation play?

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