Marriage issues, venting!

I work for the nhs as a clinician I usually do anywhere between 40-60 hour weeks my husband doesn’t work. I cook, I clean, I look after our child after 12 plus hours night shifts/after work/on my rest days my husband can’t even put his own clothes away that he takes off at night…

he’ll see me cleaning the floor and he’ll come in with muddy shoes, he’s got no interest in doing anything outside the house unless I am coming up with the idea or force him out the house.

I do all the jobs in the house, putting up lights, painting, DIY and other household chores as well as pay the bills ect.

We have been together for 10 years (since 17 years old) and married 3…
He wasn’t always like this.

I don’t know what to do, I have expressed this to him multiple times.

We have a 2 year old so it makes things very difficult and I’d feel bad telling him to leave the house and go to his parents but I’m stuck because he’s not changing. X

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Excuse me? You work 40-60 hours and still do EVERYTHING while your husband doesn’t work and does nothing?

Girl get rid of him. He’s not contributing towards anything. You’re half way to being a single parent with the way he’s being and he’s clearly just a waste of space in your house😡

100% agree with Julia, he's a grown man, you shouldnt have to put up with him acting like a spoilt child. Theres no way in hell you should feel bad for telling him to get the hell out... thats him emotionally manipulating you and playing the victim to make you feel sorry for you. That's abuse. Stop putting up with it if you want things to change x he needs a wake up call. Letting him get away with it is enabling and won't change anything.

I hate to tell you this but you are already a single parent and when he goes you'll have less work!

How is he not embarrassed x

You definitely want to show your daughter a different way of living, this isn't it x

Sounds like you've got 2 kids. I can imagine he doesn't feel bad about you doing everything, otherwise he would actually change his behaviour and contribute, so I wouldn't feel bad about telling him to get off his ass or he knows where the door is

LEAVE. When did that happen women accept that shit. He doesn't bring ANYTHING to the table. That's not acceptable in any ways unless he broke his legs or have a terrible illness who pushes him to be that useless

Sorry, that just pissed me off for you. You deserve a real partner. He isn't one

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