Marriage issues, venting!
I work for the nhs as a clinician I usually do anywhere between 40-60 hour weeks my husband doesn’t work. I cook, I clean, I look after our child after 12 plus hours night shifts/after work/on my rest days my husband can’t even put his own clothes away that he takes off at night…
he’ll see me cleaning the floor and he’ll come in with muddy shoes, he’s got no interest in doing anything outside the house unless I am coming up with the idea or force him out the house.
I do all the jobs in the house, putting up lights, painting, DIY and other household chores as well as pay the bills ect.
We have been together for 10 years (since 17 years old) and married 3…
He wasn’t always like this.
I don’t know what to do, I have expressed this to him multiple times.
We have a 2 year old so it makes things very difficult and I’d feel bad telling him to leave the house and go to his parents but I’m stuck because he’s not changing. X
Sick of aryuing with this idiot
Constantly arguing about house jobs because he does fuck all and when he does decide to do something he does it wrong. Putting in black jeans with colourful items into the washing machine at 60 degrees which makes the dye leak out the darks and he comes out with "I know how it works they've been washed loads of times" Right so? They can still fucking leak! So I'm watching our sons favorite blanket going round and round in the machine and it's not as orange as it was.
Wouldn't have been a problem if he set the temperature at the usual temperature of 30.
Lucky I didn't have my expensive pyjamas in the basket otherwise that would have been them ruined again. I've kicked off with him twice about putting darks with colours and whites but he doesn't fucking listen!
And before anyone says do your own laundry, I do trust me I do I always split items up but him? Nope he just shoves the whole lot in and calls it a day he doesn't even remove it I have to..
Getting bored of this, fighting over house jobs but yet when I left him last year and I was dropping kids off at the house for him to have them the house was spotless, laundry done, dishes done but as soon as I've came back this lasted all of a month and now it's me doing everything. And his excuse is that I need to tell him to do the dishes, like I don't allow them to pile up to the point we don't have any plated left 🙃 I'm at breaking point and this was 80% of the reason I left him
