Having trouble finding joy

I’m having trouble finding joy in motherhood lately. Maybe I’m just totally burnt out.

My son is 2. I feel bad, but I’m tired of being his entertainment. I’m tired of playing all the time. I’m tired of going to the park. Im tired of cleaning up the same messes 5x a day. Going out to stores is exhausting because he doesn’t like it.

I feel like I don’t even know what I like doing anymore because I’ve just been a mom for the last two years. I have zero friends.

It’s exhausting. I have trouble even getting myself ready each day.
How do I find my joy again? I want to enjoy playing and going to the park but I feel like I just don’t have anything else to give.

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Right there with you. You aren’t alone. I identify with every one of these points. Hot take, you don’t have to enjoy playing with your kids or even do it constantly. You can say no sometimes. Encourage them to play with other kids at the park or alone. Two is still a bit young, but by 3 he should be starting to gain more independence. Idk if there are mom groups in your area…either play groups or walking groups that meet at various parks with lots of kids and other moms. This is a super hard time and you are figuring out your life with a kid and your new self.

I don't have much advice but you're not alone!! I feel the same way. I just keep telling myself this is just a very short period and it'll be over soon

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