Sleep Deprived and on the verge of losing it.

My 3 month old is still taking a night feeding. He won't eat over 4 Oz each feed, (like, he literally stops exactly a 4 if there's more in the bottle) and he eats every two hours, and carries into the wee morning at 2:30 am. I feel like I havent slept since he's arrived. I know the fresh newborn stage was rough with waking almost every 1-2 hours like clockwork. But my body is sending off endurance warning signal when he's screaming at 2:30 am. And when I wake up at 5 am with him to feed again he's awake and ready to party 😩 and start the day. I'm trying to break the angry mom curse that feels like it was burned into my veins growing up. But I need some damn sleep. I'd really LOVE to know if anyone was able to get their 3 month old to sleep through the night. I try to nap when he does, but it's like he has a radar the minute I close my eyes to start crying or grunting and then I also have two obnoxious dogs that bark at the wind blowing during the day. TIA

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Babies need to feed through the night, it's quite normal for them to wake up to feed up to 12 months old and it's not recommended to night wean until then.
There are babies that sleep through the night yes, but they are not the norm.

I know this is not what you want to hear, trust me I feel you. I haven't slept through the night since I was 25 weeks pregnant and heartburn + sciatica and now working full time it's a struggle.

Hang in there, this is a season and will pass.

Do you have support from partner/friends/family? Can someone help you a few hours/day so you can rest? ♥️

Does he cosleep with you? Mine was when he was most fussy.
Lots of tummy time through the say in short bursts ensure he's having naptime at intervals through the day no more than 1 1/2 hour awake windows.

I would try and push a little more each time by making 5oz bottles and eventually he will take more.

I found white noise works wonders and alexa is on throughout the day. Lots of fresh air too really helps and if he's fussy...go out for a walk. I appreciate youre exhausted.

Really feel bad for you, I had the same with my daughter now 10.
Drop me a message anytime (im awake most of the night if you need To talk. ANYTHING AT ALL, no matter the time 🫂 xx

My life was literally the same. My baby didn’t sleep, had colic, threw up all the time. I had no support. It’s not perfect but here’s what I did

I stopped caring as much about the dogs. I love my dogs but my baby needed me to have to sleep to function. I was starting to almost fall asleep while driving or while on the couch with her which are incredibly dangerous. My morals kind of took the back seat. I got my dogs bark collars and put them in a separate room when I needed to for that first year. I desperately needed sleep and i was getting so upset with the dogs

I got a dog walker when I could just like once a week for 30 minutes so I could be alone. I even boarded them for a weekend every now and then

As a last resort i coslept on the floor or following all cosleeping guidelines. eventually i learned i could put baby in a pack n play that unzips from the ground so I could sleep on the floor beside her then just unzip the pack n play from the floor to feed her.

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