Ridiculous behavior at school with another Mom

My first Mom friend at my kids elementary school has turned out to be quite a peice of work. Known her since my 6ro was 2, our kids went to preschool together. My daughter then joined the local elementary school last year, where her kids also attend so we would get together often after school to have the kids play. I felt comfortable with our friendship and finally opened up a bit (I'm a closed book unless I feel I really know someone and this is exactly why). I discovered this year from a newer friend who was also friends with her, that she was sharing my personal business and even eith false statements. So disappointing. I waited a few months before saying anything because I needed time to process feeling frustrated. When I finally did address it, this Mom owned it and seemed remorseful. I saw her yesterday at school pick up, smiled and said hi to her and her youngest kid. She was standing with a few other Moms and completely ignored me and touched her kid when he went to say hi back. He wasn't allowed to speak to me??

The level of manipulation was astounding. To any outsider, it would appear I had done something wrong and she was a victim?? I have never spoken badly about this Mom, even after realizing she was never actually a friend. I know it's a waste of my energy to want those who saw this interaction to know the truth, and I'm sure this new dynamic is going to continue playing out. I need to protect my peace but how do I handle this moving forward? I have no idea what she is even saying about me now but the idea that I could be portrayed in any further mistruths really bothers me. She had a falling out with another Mom this year so I know that she specifically tells her children not to speak to this former friend, has even made statements to her kids at school, in front of others like "Don't speak to her. She is mean." & now I'm getting the same treatment. This level of behavior is insane. I don't understand why she would apply this mean girl behavior to me as well? Is there anything I should do or say the next time this happens?

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Oh jeez some women are really bitchy even though you've been a good friend. I kind went through something similar and that just means this woman envies you or some sort of jealousy. And they probably been like that they're whole life meaning there's no changing. Just ignore ger and carry on being you šŸ˜‰ and pretend you never knew her at all. But if she ever tries to talk to you again just move and slyly talk to someone else or just go on your way. Coz definitely don't waste anymore of your energy with her. And problems with adults it's nothing to do with children. That will show her you're the bigger person with her pettiness. Seriously with people like that better you found out now than later.

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Its really gross that people use their children as pawns in their lives. Why must the kid suffer and feel uncomfortable...thats a lesson that shouldn't be taught.

I've been through something similar but it was with a coworker... we became "best friends" our so I thought.

Feel free to message me and I'll tell you more my story if ya want. I'm in nevada šŸ’š

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I think you’ve spoken about this same issue on here before haven’t you? She was talking shit about you/your marriage and health behind your back if I remember? When you confronted her, what did she say?

Tbh with you if you want to protect your peace, forget about her. She is not even on your radar. Who cares what shit she is talking about behind your back. If anyone wants to believe her gossip without even knowing the other person’s side, they’re an idiot in the first place, and certainly no one you’d be bothered about not being your friend. YOU have to make the concerted effort to remain unbothered.

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People are who they are, so her character is bound to speak for itself without you wasting your breath.

I’d say be honest about it if someone bothers to ask, sure. But letting yourself get sucked into the weird drama that surely surrounds the kind of person who behaves the way she does would be a hard no for me, personally.

Maybe it’s bc I have a limited attention span lol. But the actual time, energy and emotion involved in setting a record straight that I don’t even know the details of, with people I don’t know and who don’t know me… all bc of the bizarre behavior of some biddy bent on being the queen of the pickup line… lord. Might I just kindly suggest that it might not be worthy of your time? It wouldn’t be worthy of mine (but again, limited attention span over here with a to do list like laundry. It’s never done lol).

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Some people are like that. I had a friend in high school like that. I thought we were cool but than I started to become friends with one of her friends (besties now) and she told me the truth. How she thought I would be different because my friend said bad things about me and how mean I was . We were not friends after that and neither was my best friend. We didn’t want that type of people as a friend. She then became mean to her as well spreading rumors and it was a mess.
Cut your loses. Don’t interact with her and ignore her. What she says about you is not right but unless you go confront them or talk to those people then their view won’t change and why bother with people you don’t hang out with. Focus on meeting new friend and just being you. Maybe you will end up with a real best friend because of it . Like me and my friend of over 20 years

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