Childcare for when in labour

So... Is about the time to get ready! But what are people doing for childcare of older siblings when you have no friends or family around that can give a hand?? My mum is coming from my home country in a couple of weeks... But in the meantime what if...? 🫣

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I have some options but as everyone in my circle can be 2 hours away if I go into labour during ‘weekdays and working hours’ I spoke to our childminder and another nanny who will be able to help if they are around on the day :)
Do you have a childminder or a babysitter that you used before?

Hi no, we moved to where we live one year ago and my daughter goes to nursery.. I have not been able to socialise much and anyway if I break waters I have about half an hour to get to hospital.. or I won't make it. I believe my best option is to take my daughter with me and then my partner will leave me in hospital and go back home with her.

Im in a similar situation as you, no family or friends that live near us to help. The plan is hopefully to have a home birth. As I have no clue what to do with my toddler otherwise.

Speak to the workers at your nursery and find out if any of them babysit or might be willing to be on call for you. Also if you have a local Facebook group, Peanut group or other parent network you can ask about babysitters, a few do offer this kind of service for labour.

Our plan A is my mother-in-law, but she’ll only fly from overseas when I’m about 38.5 weeks. Plan B is one of the mum friends I’ve made, and she knows she can call me the same way if there’s ever an emergency. And Plan C is a worker from nursery who gave me her number after I asked around. In case we can’t reach Plan B or Plan C, we’ll take my son with us and my husband will wait with him until either of them can pick him up from the hospital.

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He’s now decided to wake up multiple times in the middle of the night absolutely screaming like somethings happened.

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I have a 19-month-old and work mornings (7–3), while my husband works night shifts. We’re struggling with mornings as he can’t get proper sleep, and we can’t afford a nanny.

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