Autism or just age??

I want to be as sensitive as I can regarding this subject.
I have a 19 month old son, he’s walking, playing, sleeping, eating ‘normal’ however there is barely any eye contact, no waving or pointing at things, there’s no real words and even when he does say mama, dada etc he’s not saying it to get our attention so I believe he’s not understanding what the words mean!
We are very much in the tantrum period and meltdowns I can’t count how many he has a day.
My mum has out right said he has autism, which upset me as I believe this is my fault and I’ve let him down.
Does this warrant him needing to be checked and tested?

I’m sorry if this has offended anyone I just don’t know where to start or begin on what to do.

Thank you xx

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First off: you have not failed him. Regardless of if he is autistic or not, it is not your fault and you haven't failed.

Second: I work with autistic kids and based simply off of no eye contact I wouldn't say there's a big chance, but if you are really worried, I would get him checked. But keep in mind that every kid hits milestones at a different rate and he may catch up later.

But trust your gut, if you think he might be autistic get him checked and be ready to adjust to give him what he needs to thrive.

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I would ask a doctor. But no matter what, it is not your fault. Please don’t ever think that. As long as you provide him with love, protection, nourishment, support, all the mama bear things, then you are doing an amazing job. This couldn’t possibly be your fault.

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