Is sexual abuse only physical?

Do you think sexual abuse only involves unwanted direct physical contact (touching, kissing, sexual acts, etc) or do you think that sometimes it can involve no direct physical contact at all, but is enough to leave you feeling sexually violated?

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selfish bd

my bd is on supervised visits due to things found out whilst pregnant and his behaviour with her now isn’t a safe parent. he does things that are unsafe for example she can climb the stairs and he sat at the top waiting for her to come up i had to tell him to go behind her since she can’t get down them yet or he goes in the garden leaves the door wide open and when she follows him he doesn’t look back and help her , i have to get up and help her. she’s only 10 months old.

recently i went through cms since he wouldn’t pay after i keep asking. he now has decided he wants more time with her and will give me half of what cms has decided. however when he brought the idea to me about seeing her more, i ask how would it work since he works full time and the two days he has off he sees her. he had no plan so i had to set one and agreed to one morning before work.

yesterday he comes and said he wants overnights with her on the weekend. i’ve declined because she’s breastfed, we cosleep and she doesn’t settle in his house well even when im there. he hasn’t shown that he thinks about her AT ALL. it’s all about him and what he wants but he doesn’t think realistically about it.
he hasn’t even had for alone for a few hours since he doesn’t care about her safety like i do. when i replied saying no and telling him why. etc the actions he’s shown me, the fact she’s breastfed and we cosleep and she’s still young he just started sulking.

he also kept pulling her away from me yesterday. we was at the park and i was sitting on the bench letting her walk around and him bond with her but everytime she came near me or wanted to come over he would pick her up and drag her away to the point she was getting frustrated and i had to grab her and just say we are going home it’s time for a nap.
he doesn’t follow her cues like he will grab her and she’s pushing off because she wants to practice walking and she likes to explore and he just won’t put her down even when she cries. it’s like he doesn’t listen to her he just wants to do what he wants to force bonding but i’ve told him that won’t work. you can’t force a baby to be held if she wants to explore you follow her cues.

atp it feels like he does stuff on purpose that he knows isn’t right just to annoy me because it’s the same problems over and over.

Will you be my bestie boo 🥰

Can we be besties and do this thing called life together with our kids too. Im 22 from the uk, I have a beautiful daughter 6months. I want a genuine friend/friendship someone I can ft when I want to spark it and chat a whole damn lot too, laugh too, cry too so I don’t feel like a loner, go for outings, events to the clurbbb together, go to your kids party you come to mine vice versa. The type of friendship that our kids become besties as well ❤️

Group chats

Has anyone got an groupchat I could join where no one judges you

About BOTH inlaws, not just the MIL..

I’m needing some advice on how to go about this.. let’s get into it.

Found out I was pregnant last year in June. Had my baby in February, during my whole pregnancy, NOBODY texted me, and I mean that, UNLESS my husband wasn’t answering them, then there would be a message on mine, ONLY asking if my man is ooay/is he working/is he this or that. 1. He’s 21, he can full tell you. 2. Just point nobody texted about my pregnancy, nobody even congratulated us!! Like WHAT?! Anyways. Come to baby being born. EVERYONE from both sides IMMEDIATE family were invited to the hospital the day after as I had extreme complications. FIL came down to get his equinox bc we are 2 hrs away from home and I specifically need our car and my husband truck wouldn’t make it that far right now. They came down, saw the baby, my MIL REFUSED to come down bc of the drive even tho we had a hotel specifically for HER bc we knew this would happen. FIL ended up using it don’t didn’t go to waste.. but she then ended up deciding on her own that she would wait until the day we got home, now specifically I already said I didn’t want to see anyone for the first 6 weeks as I was healing/navigating breastfeeding/little sleep/addjusting not only being a sahm to one but now 2! 2 weeks into his life, we are already getitng cussed out and demanded to by his mom. We tried explaining how we felt and why, and it was literally called bullshit(by his dad), I haven’t talked to them since then bc wym I just gave birth and how I feel it BULLSHIT? Literally leave me alone. Fast forward 3 week, we got tired of having our phone blow up so we saw them ONE time, and again still didn’t want to see anyone for 6 weeks bc of healing, and some ppl, ITS LONGER, so by 5 weeks, we get a text..

FIL is so tired of me that he claims I won and get to keep my husband and my son all to myself, I just gave birth.. yall did literally nothing, not even a text, he took my husband truck back(it was fils, so he took it back), 2 days later he texts my husband asking if he wanted to buy the truck, my husband said yes so it’s now HIS. Title and all. So in that text, we got the truck taken, his dad owns the house to where we rent from him, he’s kicking us out and selling the house in August.. this is the first time he’s ever said something considering he was trying to get us to buy it right before I gave birth. And now that are both in no contact WITH ME. His mom told us that I shouldn’t be keeping my son away j bc I gave birth bc it’s “not that serious” meanwhile I had my first EVER seizure right before I got induced, had to be on mag for 2 days, I couldn’t walk, I couldn’t go to the bathroom, I couldn’t do anything, the day after labor, was still in a hospital bed and that’s when they first got mad they couldn’t come the first day bc “that’s what they did”, even tho I couldn’t shower, I haven’t slept, and still couldn’t even walk!.. now to mention my other son, he’s 3, and I had him from a previous relationship, and they have made it known he is NOT their grandson, yet my husband and I are married.. husband has an older brother’s ther who unfortunately passed away a few years ago, and it was the same situation, the older brother was not the son of myFIL but then, he was extremely accepted to where my ow husband never got talked to by anyone bc he wasn’t the older brother.

I’m really not in the mood to try to keep a relationship with them, I’m not in the mood to try to rekindle things when I don’t believe I did anything wrong, I chose how I wanted after labor to go, EVERYONE had the same option to come and see him, and just bc they’ve only seen us one time is 5 weeks, we got the truck taken, getting kicked out, and no contact, ONLY to me. If I am wrong, say something and I will re evaluate my brain, however it was a simple choice for MY birth.. therefore I don’t believe I was wrong, and I feel how I’d like to communicate to them(little to very much none at all), isn’t putting me in the wrong either.

Meal prep

This might be silly but i was wondering if anyone could help me with some great meal prep ideas.🙂Rn i have chicken,shrimp and tilapia filets. Any seasoning/Side suggestions would be great! 🫶🏽 aiming for high protein meals low carbs. I look on tiktok see great videos but i feel as though they are a bit much or maybe im just lazy? 😂😅

IBUPROFEN BLOCKS OVULATION

FYI ladies, taking ibuprofen decreases the chance of ovulation by 75% if taken mid cycle. So if you’ve been taking it for aches and also not been succesfull ttc be mindful x

Taking a low dose once long before ovulation is expected - it might only delay ovulation by day or few days, but if taken more it will likely cause antiovulatory cycle