selfish bd
my bd is on supervised visits due to things found out whilst pregnant and his behaviour with her now isnāt a safe parent. he does things that are unsafe for example she can climb the stairs and he sat at the top waiting for her to come up i had to tell him to go behind her since she canāt get down them yet or he goes in the garden leaves the door wide open and when she follows him he doesnāt look back and help her , i have to get up and help her. sheās only 10 months old.
recently i went through cms since he wouldnāt pay after i keep asking. he now has decided he wants more time with her and will give me half of what cms has decided. however when he brought the idea to me about seeing her more, i ask how would it work since he works full time and the two days he has off he sees her. he had no plan so i had to set one and agreed to one morning before work.
yesterday he comes and said he wants overnights with her on the weekend. iāve declined because sheās breastfed, we cosleep and she doesnāt settle in his house well even when im there. he hasnāt shown that he thinks about her AT ALL. itās all about him and what he wants but he doesnāt think realistically about it.
he hasnāt even had for alone for a few hours since he doesnāt care about her safety like i do. when i replied saying no and telling him why. etc the actions heās shown me, the fact sheās breastfed and we cosleep and sheās still young he just started sulking.
he also kept pulling her away from me yesterday. we was at the park and i was sitting on the bench letting her walk around and him bond with her but everytime she came near me or wanted to come over he would pick her up and drag her away to the point she was getting frustrated and i had to grab her and just say we are going home itās time for a nap.
he doesnāt follow her cues like he will grab her and sheās pushing off because she wants to practice walking and she likes to explore and he just wonāt put her down even when she cries. itās like he doesnāt listen to her he just wants to do what he wants to force bonding but iāve told him that wonāt work. you canāt force a baby to be held if she wants to explore you follow her cues.
atp it feels like he does stuff on purpose that he knows isnāt right just to annoy me because itās the same problems over and over.
