Needs some advise

I’d like some honest opinions from other mums about something.

My husband is generally a very good husband and a great father to our son, who is nearly four. But sometimes I feel quite restricted in my freedom, and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

For example, if I go out for coffee with friends for 2–3 hours, he’ll message asking when I’m coming back. If I spend the day out, like I did yesterday with a friend visiting from my home country, he gets upset that I was out all day and came home late - he’s also not speaking with me because of that. He often says he supports me going out, but seems uncomfortable if I stay out too long - I don’t go out to often.

The same thing has happened with work opportunities. I’ve had job offers that involved travelling for work, and he was completely against me going.

What makes me question this even more is that I honestly wouldn’t mind if he had to travel for work, went to play football, or went out for a beer with friends. I’d see that as completely normal.

Am I wrong for feeling this is unfair? I’d really value hearing other mums’ perspectives.

in our community

Why do some women think being a SAHM is bad ?

Recently I lost a friend on here because she would criticize me about being a SAHM and I get it yk. I do eventually want to find work and be able to have my own money and things like that, but I am only 22 and she was 26 and already had a house and car already- felt like we were in different situations. We basically fell out because she would cross boundaries and was eventually getting more judgmental and mean about her opinion. Because at first, I didn’t mind her having her own opinion but she started getting disrespectful eventually. So please ladies tell me what you all think?

Leave him!!

Am I the only one that gets annoyed when someone complains about their partner and the comments automatically say to leave them? “Divorce him. Leave him. He’ll never change.”
Like damn… do y’all not have faith in people anymore???? Do you not realize our partners are also learning with us?? And don’t even get me started on all the quote images in the replies ..

Does anyone feel this way?

My entire life I knew I only wanted one thing and that was to be a mom. But now that I’ve been a mom for 9 months old, I’m starting to think maybe that’s not what I was made for. I feel like I’m struggling. Everyone around me seems to have it so much easier with their babies, but for me, I’ve struggled since day one. I love my baby to death and wouldn’t trade him for anything in this world, but he’s such a high maintenance baby. We’ve always had trouble with feeding, sleeping, etc. I see other moms go out with their newborn and I just wish that could’ve been me. But instead I was just worried that my baby wouldn’t eat or sleep, or would just cry the entire time and I wouldn’t know how to soothe him. Now he’s 9 months old, we’ve gotten out a little bit more but it’s still rough, and I feel like I just struggle more than I should. Like maybe I just wasn’t meant to be a mom. I feel like motherhood in these first 9 months hasn’t been enjoyable like it should have been.

What's the etiquette?

My brother and his girlfriend are going to look after my little girl (20 months) for a few hours so my husband and I can go out for lunch - we never get time to ourselves. This is the first time they've looked after her and it would be nice if they could do it every now and then. They love spending time with her but I want to thank them, I just don't know exactly how. What do you do when family look after your child/children?

At what point (as friend or family) would you tell him to go home?

Child's father has been out with friends and family for over 13 hours now, I'm pregnant with a toddler & everyone knows. The "event" was supposed to last just a few hours so as his friends/family wouldn't you ask him why he isn't at home yet? Because personally I would & yes he is responsible for coming home himself but it makes me upset that these people seem so fake.

Guys what do I even do

I’ve realised every time I talk to my partner who I have two kids with he always shouts and I always thought maybe I’m the one who makes him to angry but these few weeks I’ve been doing it different I haven’t been arguing back and I’ve realised , even if I talk calm to him everything I say makes him so angry.
Today I told him that I don’t like the state his left my garden in as we had workers to do my garden but they basically scammed us took material money and blocked us. It’s been like 6 months we left the garden as it’s been cold, But my partner has made the garden worse he doesn’t look after it he goes to the back of the garden we have a shed to smoke weed. And my garden is quite big so I didn’t realise how messy his left it as I can’t see so far down.
So today it was hot I decided to go in the garden and I asked him why he doesn’t respect my house and just clean the garden I’ve got ocd and seeing the state he left the shed in made me so upset, instead of saying no problem I’ll sort it out later or tomorrow to make me feel better he starts screaming say how it’s my fault, yes it’s your fault because your making it worse anyways whilst he was shouting I just walked back inside as his so loud and I hate the fact that his shouting in the garden and people can hear.
Then today we went out to London we went to a few casinos then to like a karioke night and he just kept shouting stuff like your shit to the person singing, oh Noo don’t sing that, put Rihanna on, let me singggg and just loads of other random stuff and I honestly got so embarrassing i told him many times to stop it as it’s embarrassing and it’s not nice and I said to him I’ll just leave Then some women went to sing and as she started singing she was like lifting up her legs and stroking it 😂😂 and looking at us and I said to him it’s because you kept screaming now she’s literally looking into his soul whilst trying to dance sexy so I literally walked out as he kept refusing because wtf is even happening .. then I asked him to book a uber as his abit drunk whilst we’re waiting for the uber his making comments about me how I’m never happy and stuff and I’m thinking how can I be happy this always happens every time I go out with him I can’t relax he literally starts on people, how’s he meant to keep me safe as a man if he starts on people and some man fell over and he said u fat prick get up ?
So I went to check up on the man and he was so sweet, I honestly
don’t understand how you can be so mean.
So anyways after uber came, we sat in the uber he saw a women and I’ve never seen him do this but he literally started looking at her up and down then I said to him what you looking at and he goes oh those boys are trying it on those girls? I’m thinking why does it concern you .
So I stayed quite the whole journey we just got to my mums got into bed like and I said to him you’ve actually been really horrible today he literally just said oh fuck of and I said excuse me and he was like yes shut up 😂😂 saying oh
you spent my money in the casino and now on top of this you want to talk to me like this then he got up walked out the room slammed the door and said fuck this shit? I’m honestly so confused ? Like wtf is going on I dnt actually understand, how can you be so angry all the times and the bitch fits are honestly so off putting like your a grown arse man ? . I’m kind of like fed up of it . This is just today what happened but he does things like this everydayyyyy he just wants to argue and his family are the same like him horrible!
What do I even do? I don’t want a man like this but i love him and ill find it so hard to cope and ive got two kids with him i dnt have family close to me only his family .
Im only 27 his 35.
Im honestly so stuck as i dont want to live like this anymore.

Sorry the picture is what I moaned about it’s really not that easy to just clean this? why leave it to get to this? This is just the bins the whole garden is a state!!!