Lonely and struggling to make mum friends

Hi Ladies,
How is everyone finding it making mum friends?
I'm on my second mat leave and I honestly didn't think it would be this hard. Our NCT from baby #1 never got off the ground for various reasons and this time around I'm being proactive in attending baby groups/classes but nothing seems to work in helping me find my 'tribe'.
I went to a baby group this morning (second visit) and honestly came away feeling more lonely than ever before as everyone seemed to know eachother from other places. I feel like all the generic baby chat can be so superficial and it's hard to reach any relational depth with people.

I am so tired of putting myself out there and making an effort to go to places/groups to meet other mums yet never feeling a connection to anyone i meet. I was hoping that by this stage in motherhood (4 years in) I would have made a few solid friends but my god it's hard.
Anyone else relate or have any suggestions? X

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I am really struggling. I have a 2 year old and a 4 month old. I never really kept friends from anywhere and never really had a social life. I had a toxic relationship at uni which I didn't realise till we broke up so I never went out and never built social bonds there either. Im trying to be more proactive for both my baby's sakes but it's really not easy

It's so hard, my 3rd baby is 5 months old and I've had an awful time due to personal circumstances so I'm also now a single mum but I've done the same, trying to put myself out there but I also can't stand small talk! 🙈 noone tells you how isolating it is having a baby! I dont have any advice, but just know you aren't alone ❤️

Where are you located hun? If it's anywhere near West Midlands UK, let me know x

In my area a local mum set up a baby group for walks and coffee mornings and baby groups. Its honestly been amazing amd I meet someone new each time. But because of my toddler im not able to go to lots of events as they're aimed at smaller babies. My toddler is as feral as they get

Have you tried your local church for baby/toddler groups. They are apparently supposed to be better than private groups, more friendlier 😊

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Hi mums

I was wondering how u deal with loneliness I have a 8 wrek old and I have a bf/bd hw doesn’t wanna ever go out with me for my bday I spent it just arguing and inside I didn’t go out while pregnant and same now he says I didn’t need friends but I can’t tell him my feelings without him getting upset I end up crying all by myself with him just watching I’m so lonely to ther point I don’t wanna be here anymore and I feel hard for my daughter as I have no one for heee to be friends with too I really hate my life and I acc don’t enjoy it anymore sometimes I think it’s better if im just dead and my bd and my daughter would be more happy but idk

Hi!

Hey everyone, I’m new to this group and honestly just looking for connection. Life, marriage, and parenting has been feeling very heavy lately and I realized I don’t really have a support system that I can rely on.

I’d love to connect with other moms and wives who get it. Whether it’s for venting, advice, or just not feeling so alone. 💛

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