thoughts?

It’s sounds like he’s going through PPD. I’d try to get him to go to therapy to work through what he’s going through mentally. It’s not talked about often, but men can experience PPD too. They go from only having to worry about themselves to feeling pressure to provide and keep their family afloat financially. Now they’re responsible for another life and that can take a huge toll on them mentally.

It sounds like he needs to take some time in therapy and maybe seperate himself if he can’t practice healthy coping mechanisms, because he’s pretty much just like “I’m doing my best so deal with it. And I don’t want to talk about it anymore” shutting you out and shutting the conversation- that honestly needs to go further- down. If it’s all too much for him then he should take a step back because like you said your baby can for SURE feel it even if she doesn’t really know what’s going on. And you having to walk on eggshells all day every day because he’s in a mood is so not cool either, is there a family member he could stay with for a little while? It would relieve him of his “new life” for a while so that he can see a little clearer and maybe realize the grass isn’t greener. In his replies he really didn’t even say much of anything. Just that he’s struggling mentally No actual feelings or causes or what could help. It would be so hard to talk to someone so closed off.