Partner and bonding?

My partners just told me although he loves our 12 day old baby he hasn’t bonded with him ? Why do I feel so mad and upset about this? Is it normal? He’s wishing away time like saying when he’s older it will be better because at the moment all he does is sleep? I’m so upset ?

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I think you’re upset because of hormones but the bonding is different with everyone some can bond instantly whereas some people take time. He’ll get there though

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it’s totally normal, it can happen to either parent. it’s totally normal to be upset about it too though. my partner didn’t really bond with our daughter for a while, but it didn’t take too long! like Angel said, he’ll get there

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I think its more common with Dads because they're more of a spare part in the early days. I did absolutely everything for months and my daughter is a total Daddy's girl now. They will bond in their own time and then you'll be mad that baby wants Dad all the time 😂

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