Breastfeeding continuously

I am starting to feel like all my baby does is latch to my boobs (she has since birth if I’m honest) I understand they use the boobs for food, comfort, to regulate themselves etc, which I don’t want to stop but it’s beginning to make me feel isolated and unable to do anything other than sit and feed her. Advice or suggestions welcome to get me through 🙏 x

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Have you tried giving your baby formula every now and then. I only say because my baby kept waking up to feed and it turns out he wasn’t getting full. Formula keeps baby full longer. I only give my baby formula twice a day just so he can sleep longer.

A dummy or comforter for her to suckle might work, if she’s using you purely for comfort? I remember that stage though, I promise it passes x

I'm considering a dummy for my baby who, for about 4 hours daily, just uses me for comfort. It's always when I need to be doing other things too, like nursery runs. I could deal with it if it were evenings when all I needed to do was watch TV 😂

I don't but I have to trust that if he's not actively swallowing, then he's not there for milk. Also, it's a different time every day, otherwise I'd suspect it was cluster feeding.

I have an 18 month old, so i have to put him down at times to spend time with her. It's tough but if he's just there for comfort, sometimes he needs to wait 😂

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My daughter stomped her foot at a crow today and said “I’m so pissed off!” because the crow was trying to steal some of her picnic. She’s 3.

My head was in my hands. It’s my fault because when things go wrong, I sometimes say that, and she’s obviously picked up on it.

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