I’m so fucking exhausted.

I just want to be able to sleep through the night. I’m so fucking tired. Idk what I’m doing wrong. Idk what is waking her up. Idk how to get her to stop waking up constantly. She doesn’t sleep more than 4hrs at a time. And even then she’s tossing and turning. These last two nights it’s every fucking hour she’s awake and upset and I’m spending ten to twenty minutes trying to soothe her back down. The only time she doesn’t move an inch is when she is sleeping on me and I don’t feel comfortable co sleeping. I also need space. I’m fucking touched out. I’m breaking down every single day because I’m so fucking exhausted. I’m miserable. I don’t want to do this anymore. Like I am just so fucking exhausted. This is mostly a rant but if you have ideas on how to make a baby sleep through the night send them my way.

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Hang in there. I have no advice, but you’re not alone! This is a season, it will get better. Not sure how old your little one is, but they do actively sleep so everything you are experiencing is normal. I know not everyone has support, but if you have anyone that may watch the baby so you can have a true rest, even during the day, resetting your mind maybe helpful. Praying you get some rest and you feel rejuvenated.

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I don’t have any ideas but I am in the same boat as you, I have been co sleeping on my couch for probably about a month and it sucks but since my hubby went back to work it’s the only way I’m a human at the moment. It sucks and it’s overwhelming what I have found most helpful is finding something to treat myself with during the day so I’ve been enjoying having ice cream once a day and then once a week I go out for my favorite coffee. We got this

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Hey love, I’m so sorry you’re also going through this. I know how you feel. I have a 9 year old and 2 year old both girls and I’ve got my one year old son and he’s the same way. Most nights he won’t sleep unless he’s on me and daddy is a heavy sleeper so it’s hard to get him to get up most of the time so I’m doing it by myself at night and being super tired. Like now, my son just fell back asleep and I’m scared if I move him, he’s just up. If you wanna message me you can

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Ohhh I have so been there. I am so sorry you are having such a rough time but, you are not alone and things will get better. I hope you have someone who can give you a break so that you can get a good stretch of uninterrupted sleep soon. That made all the difference for me when I was feeling this way.

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