Questions from other people?

Anyone else being asked really weird and at times personal questions about having a c section? Like everything from “how many inches do you think they’ll cut you?” to “is your partner happy then since you’re keeping things neat?”

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I personally have not. I just get asked why I had one

These questions sounds like they are coming from people who are very immature they are werid and not sure how they think you would react to these it like they want to see a reaction of some sort which I’m not sure what

Never.

People tried I just change the subject or pretend I didn’t hear

Nope, never.

Never had a weird question about either C-section.

How gross and immature of them, especially the questions of a sexual nature 🤢

A few friends of friends, people I don’t even really know, made some really weird remarks similar to what you mentioned, normally about how I was “lucky” my “vagina would be intact” and it all very much gave immature vibes that the be all and end all of child birth was wether your vagina would be unchanged or not! I shut it down very quickly but it did baffle me

Nope. Not a one.

No never, I did however have one of the midwives in the hospital during my traumatic labour pop her head in and tell me baby was too posh to push, that made me feel wonderful 🙃

Never. None of their business and very rude and crossing boundaries.

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