Conflict with my partner

My 2 boys thought it would be a good idea to poo on our balcony this afternoon and then ride through it everywhere, spreading it everywhere.

When I spoke to my husband and was telling him about it (he is away for work) in the middle of telling him, he asked “well, did you clean it up”? To which I snapped and said no I left human poo all over the balcony.

Bit of back story, I am 13 weeks pregnant and have been struggling with extreme fatigue and struggle most days all day.

He got upset at me snapping at him which I apologised, but when I explained how a question like that made me feel (pretty useless, and how disgusting I must be not to have clean it up) he said he didn’t do anything wrong, he didn’t care how I felt and wasn’t going to apologise and that was that. He also said that he asked because he would understand if I didn’t clean it up because he knows how much I’ve been struggling with the pregnancy lately.
Am I in the wrong for being upset at what he asked?

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Distant from husband

Hello everyone, i am after ftm to a 10month old baby boy. I am feeling very distant from my husband for a few months. Whenever i say i need us to spend time together , it just never happens. He always says he loves me irrespective. We are not physical anymore, there are no touches/hands holding etc. Is this how motherhood feels? Every night my body is needed by my baby so much and on the other hand I feel like my husband doesn’t.

Sorry for venting here! But just wanted to see anyone else is going through the same? What have you done to improve your relationship or go back to that loving relationship? it just feels i am only a mother now. Every relationship with my husband doesn’t exist. We both love each other but I don’t know how to bring the love/touch back.

Ps: during pregnancy we barely had sex as it was our first baby and we just didn’t knew if it was safe.

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Staff ratio at nursery

What is the legal requirement of staff to children ratio for a nursery with children aged 2-5 all in the same room?

Recently I was told where I was thinking of sending my son the ratio is 10:1 (children to staff)

I visited a room with 2-3 year olds and the ratio was 5:1 (staff to children)

How is it legal to then just add on another 5 because others are older you still have to care for the 2 year olds. Does the older children suddenly mean they can have 6 2 year olds and 4 4 year olds with 1 key worker?

Advise would be great thanks

Baby's first birthday gift ideas?

This is my second baby, and we have no idea what to get him for his birthday next month.
We still have the big toys my first had, a trike, sandpit ect. We did have a slide and swing but our garden (we moved last year) isn't really suitable so they're at my parent's house instead.
I just don't know what to get him. I'm thinking maybe sensory bits? I need things that aren't going to take up too much space. Any suggestions? Anything your little ones have loved, or anything you wished you'd got them sooner?

Is anyone else in this same space?

So I have a 6 month old and in a long distance marriage. My husband was only able to stay for a month after the baby was born before leaving for work. I have been raising my son alone and this has caused a lot of strain between me and my husband. He just doesn’t seem to understand how much effort it’s taking me to raise our baby. I’m so irritated I feel like divorcing him.

question!?

Mopping wears me out, but I can’t stand dirty floors either. Thinking of getting a robot mop — any recommendations? What should I look for? Or is there a better option?

Holiday packing for baby (6 months)

Hi Mamas,
Please could you advise what I need to pack for 10 days holiday in Majorca. We go next month and baby will be 6 months. (EBF)
I understand the obvious clothes, swimmers, nappies. But please could you tell me what is essential or any tips?
Thank you ❤️