Help me pls
I moved to England to be with my partner in September 2024. He only worked two days a week, and he constantly upset me by accusing me of cheating on him. I never argued back, I just listened and told him it wasn’t true, but he kept doing this every time he went to work. He has panic disorder, and whenever he had to work, he would panic.
After a year, during the summer, he left his job because he was panicking every day. By then I was pregnant. I supported him through everything, even though he called me a whore every single day. Because of all this, I changed too — I became aggressive and started answering back. He then lost his job.
When it was getting close to the birth of our baby, I ended up in hospital for a week. At that time he had a job and took time off because of me. In the hospital, he lay on the hospital bed himself, wouldn’t let me rest, didn’t help me at all, and only cared about himself. He just wanted to sleep all day. Even the midwives told him that the bed was not for him. He became more and more rude and unbearable.
When the baby was born, his parents would not allow me to breastfeed my baby, and they also influenced my partner. It has now been five months, and he is unemployed. He does not let me or the baby rest. If he holds the baby, after five minutes he gives the baby back. He deliberately wakes us up. He talks about other women, tells me to show my breasts to women, and constantly wants sex, but I simply do not want anything from him anymore. Especially since he is in love with my best friend, and I have started to fall out of love with him. It is all too much for me.
His family is also unsupportive. When I asked for help because I felt unwell and dizzy, they told me to calm down because everyone was sleeping.
He constantly behaves like a small child. Sometimes he even speaks in a childish or mocking voice. If I tell him off, he only annoys me more.
What should I do? When the health visitor comes, he pretends to be normal.
Low Sex Drive/Neurodivergence/Mental Health
I’m 33. I have an almost 4 year old son. He is our only child, and we are not planing to have anymore children. I have always had a low sex drive, although it’s currently it’s at an all time low. I take Sertraline for OCD anxiety/depression and the combined oral contraceptive pill. Recently, my sex drive has been getting worse. Life is full and busy, and I have to take Sertraline for my mental health. It’s the only thing that keeps my OCD at bay, and I’ve tried reducing it to help my sex drive but the OCD thoughts are unbearable when I lower it. I find maybe Sertraline/the pill lowers my sex drive potentially? Are there any strategies to increase sex drive/desire? I find a few glasses of wine before intimacy seems to help, as I seem to also have anxiety with sex and relaxing, but once I get into it, i’m fine. I work part-time, tired and have a busy life and Dyspraxia, so find things more fatiguing than usual. I can go months without sex, but of course, it’s not exactly normal and my husband gets frustrated and it is becoming an issue. I’ve spoken to my husband and i’ve told him I’m aware of it and that it’s not about him. I told him I don’t want to make it an issue and to improve things in that sense. I love my husband and want our relationship to remain good. Does anyone have any experience of this/advice/suggestions to help increase sex drive? I’d really appreciate the help. Thanks in advance.
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