What should I do

I’ve been married for 6 years and my man has been seeming indifferent or irritated towards me. He is my first everything. I am 8 months postpartum and we haven’t had a lot of sex because I have absolutely no help. He told me a girl was flirting with him at the job but he wasn’t going to do anything. But he also told me I should get out more with friends or by myself, It would be good for me to get flirted with. I said I’m going through PPD…. Going out is not something I’m eager to do but if I do go out I’d like it to be with him. He says idk to going out with me. Yesterday I found these messages and he lied to me about it when I confronted him. I’ll add the text messages in the comments

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Does parenting ever feel one-sided?

Hey mamas 💛

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how, in parenting, one person can sometimes end up doing more or carrying more of the day to day and it really got me thinking.

Does it ever feel like you’re the one keeping everything running?

I ended up creating something to help couples share things a bit more and feel more supported, would love to know if this is something others would find helpful🥹

Mil’s comment-how to handle

It was my child’s birthday over the weekend, and I planned it all. From the handmade food signs, themed food items, themed drinks, signs, everything. While I was cutting the fruit into shapes, my MIL came over and mumbled “thats cute, I just couldn’t be bothered with the effort or wasting my time” …. like okay… I didn’t ask her to help, for her opinion, or to pay for anything so like wtf. I felt like it was a super unnecessary backhanded comment to make to the mother of her grandchildren… the others all said it was wonderful and creative, all nice things. So am I wrong for thinking this was super rude on her part? Or am I misunderstanding the situation?

My husband keeps cheating on me and I can’t leave

I don’t know what’s wrong with me… he cheats on me constantly and I know I should leave. I know I deserve better. I know he’s a loser and piece of shit and everything anyone could possibly say to me, I already know. Yet I look at him and I see the only family I’ve ever known. I see all the times he’s held me during my panic attacks. I see my whole life sitting in front of me, everything I worked so hard for. And now it’s all crumbling and broken. It’s like I want to believe in him so much because I’ve always put all my trust in him, and now I just feel like I don’t who he is anymore or even who I am for staying… this isn’t me. Yet I can’t bring myself to go.

(Please be nice in comments.)

Success after dinner refusal

We’ve had a few days of outright dinner refusal recently as he’s been solely focused on weetabix (😶) but tonight it was roasted veggie + cream cheese spaghetti to the rescue.

Full disclosure I took the bread off his plate as it’s usually what he fills up on - was just on autopilot when dishing up - and he stopped partway through to eat his melon and kiwi that was on the table as visual exposure / an option after he’s been refusing those too. But still, a good few forks is better than the tantrums we’ve been having otherwise!

8 months - Food

Is anyone else’s baby eating more than a few spoons full?

My little one loves her food and will clear a plate but worried she shouldn’t be eating this much? Will happily eat a whole pouch if we are out and about, always finishes her meals at home too!

Why daddy why !!!!

I have a 3-month-old baby, and I’m managing everything on my own—cleaning, cooking, laundry, and breastfeeding day and night. I barely even get time to comb my hair.

I can handle the work, but what hurts is what I’m not getting in return—no love, no hugs, no affection, no appreciation, no understanding.

He talks to the baby, but not to me. I’ve started staying quiet because whenever I try to say something, it turns into shouting, and I don’t want that environment for my baby.

Sometimes it feels like I’m completely invisible. People often say women become “too strong” or “too masculine,” but no one sees what pushes them to that point.