Resentment issues

I need some help, my husband is perfect for me and we really love each other but when I went through ppd and a mental break I made some really stupid/selfish seeming decisions in an attempt to help him and us which backfired horribly and now he resents me. Every time we fight it becomes 10x worse because he brings up those things I did when I was not in a good mental place- but because he’s always suffered with depression he doesn’t see it as mistakes he sees it as my own bad decisions… idk how to get through to him and it just hurts so much sometimes

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Nobody should ever bring up what we did in a bad place I’m sorry 💔

Cant tell someone how to respond/react to something you did tbh whether it was due to a bad mental space or not…you should ask what can be done for yall to move forward in a better place or go to couples therapy. Gotta be accountable for your decisions, blaming (based on what you stated) it on a bad mental space is prolly making it worse cuz it sounds like lack of accountability. “I messed up it wasnt intentional but i acknowledge that. How can we move forward in a better space?”

When you make a decision to do something, whether you’re in a bad place mentally or not, you have to realize that the echoes of that decision will remain long after the decision was made. You can’t decide how long he will hurt about it. Put on your big girl panties and take accountability. You chose to do what you did and now you have to wait for him to heal. You can’t force it or rush it. You don’t get to do things to people and then decide how they should feel about it or how long it takes them to heal from it.

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