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First time mums

Anyone else had your friend group abandon you after finding out you are pregnant?

I’m in my early 30s, married, and currently pregnant. I moved to a new state two years ago and eventually found a small group of girlfriends in my new town. Over the last 6 months, I’ve not been as socially active, but I recently reached out in our group chat to check in, see how everyone was doing, and let them know I’m expecting.

My husband and I aren’t officially announcing yet, but we’ve started telling family, close friends, and colleagues. I was honestly surprised when my message was met with complete silence in the group chat after I mentioned my pregnancy.

The women in the group are also in their late 20s and early 30s. None of them are married, some are single, while others are dating. They’re all doing well for themselves, but they often talk about struggles with dating, relationships, or feeling “behind” in life. I’ve always tried to be supportive and listened to them vent about bad relationships, dating frustrations, and insecurities. I’m a fairly private person, so I didn’t share much about my own relationship, but they know I am in a happy marriage.

Their silence is making me wonder if they were never really my friends to begin with, if there could be some jealousy involved, or if we’re simply in different stages of life and naturally drifting apart.

Has anyone else experienced a friend group becoming distant or going quiet after finding out you are pregnant?