This guy has been absent since my daughter was one month she’s now a year and a half. I’ve stopped reaching out and blocked his mom who was trying to act entitled and defending him so she can stop being rude to me. I always reached out to him and always got blocked or told off saying this was my choice so I have to deal with it. Just doing and saying mean things avoiding us and now he’s framing me as the difficult one again . I think he’s a narcissist cus he could just say sorry . I was thinking of saying I appreciate the acknowledgment but I wish u can say sorry for ignoring and dismissing as long as u have been I haven’t been trying to argue I just wanted to get a long and for him to have a relationship with the baby
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Whys the blame on you?

I think he’s saying he wants to change things and be involved and wants to know if you’ll accept that but agree it’s an issue how he framed it. He avoids taking any responsibility for his behavior by focusing on yours and the future.
I think what you want to say is perfect and depending on how he responds a good follow up might be finding out what issues he had with “the way you been talking and acting” and how he wishes it will change so you guys can communicate better moving forward. You know like what are his expectations, let him know yours.
Maybe leave the mom blocked though tbh. If she needs something regarding the grandbaby she can go through her son, it’s not like you and him are in a romantic relationship again so you don’t need to re-establish a relationship with his mom. Unless that’s what he’s getting at.

Oh hell nah, the way he said are you ready?? I would have just said, “are you ready to stop playing victim? And actually be a father and take responsibility instead of abandoning our daughter?” Cause the way he said it was very narcissistic