What should I respond to this or I don’t even know if I should ?

This guy has been absent since my daughter was one month she’s now a year and a half. I’ve stopped reaching out and blocked his mom who was trying to act entitled and defending him so she can stop being rude to me. I always reached out to him and always got blocked or told off saying this was my choice so I have to deal with it. Just doing and saying mean things avoiding us and now he’s framing me as the difficult one again . I think he’s a narcissist cus he could just say sorry . I was thinking of saying I appreciate the acknowledgment but I wish u can say sorry for ignoring and dismissing as long as u have been I haven’t been trying to argue I just wanted to get a long and for him to have a relationship with the baby

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I think he’s saying he wants to change things and be involved and wants to know if you’ll accept that but agree it’s an issue how he framed it. He avoids taking any responsibility for his behavior by focusing on yours and the future.

I think what you want to say is perfect and depending on how he responds a good follow up might be finding out what issues he had with “the way you been talking and acting” and how he wishes it will change so you guys can communicate better moving forward. You know like what are his expectations, let him know yours.

Maybe leave the mom blocked though tbh. If she needs something regarding the grandbaby she can go through her son, it’s not like you and him are in a romantic relationship again so you don’t need to re-establish a relationship with his mom. Unless that’s what he’s getting at.

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Oh hell nah, the way he said are you ready?? I would have just said, “are you ready to stop playing victim? And actually be a father and take responsibility instead of abandoning our daughter?” Cause the way he said it was very narcissistic

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Guys idk what to do ive just had a baby with this man (my bf) we went on a night out with my sister and towards the end of the night we got her bf to take us back. My bf got very rude towards my sister bf and her and I called him out for it when we get home… he then started punching the walls and yelling and lowkey being emotionally manipulative. I didn’t want to sleep in the same bed as him due to this and he then got upset by this. Luckily my daughter as gone to stay at my parents for the night so she wasn’t here to witness this but idk what to do as I now have the fear maybe in the future do something to me or maybe harm himself. Idk what to do

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Fml

Feel so shit, got a 2yr old & a 2wk old and literally hate the newborn stage so much.

Pist off my toddler only wants my hubby since hes been on paternity leave and wont let me do anything

Newborn just wants to be on the boob all the time restricting what I can do and time i spend with toddler

Was just about to go to softplay but baby is screaming the car down so ive bailed and said I may aswell just stay at home glued to the sofa with him and sent my hubby off with our toddler

Now sat in tears because im so fed up and cant help but wish we never had another now 😭

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What do i do ?

Ladies please help! My boy is almost 8 months old and is still on pureed/lumpy foods. Any time i go to give him something more solid i have a complete anxiety attack, my legs go like jelly and my heart hammers out of my chest. Hes gagged twice before when i tried to give him toast and another time when I gave him on of them melty sticks, it foesnt help that hes a rammer ans shoves it all into his mouth.I just tried him with cucumber sticks, he was fine but I was thay scared I felt like I was going to pass out. I just cant do it. Am I depriving him if I dont give him finger foods/ affecting his development? He loves his food and eats a massive variety, its just spoon fed to him. What can I do to make this better?

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Anyone else feel their partner just doesn’t get it??

We’re dog sitting at my father in laws and my partner has just started shouting at me because I woke him up as my son just threw up all over the place. He’s called me the a**hole because he was asleep both me and my son were covered in sick and now he’s told me to not go anywhere near him because I woke him up… he’s currently bathing our son but told me he doesn’t know what my problem is and why I just couldn’t deal with it all by myself.

But yesterday he woke me up because he didn’t know what to do as our son felt warm…

Does anyone else’s partner just not get it….

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Is it time to end the marriage?

My husband and I can’t get along. We don’t share the same interests. I’m a bookworm and he’s a party man who loves to drink on the weekends. We tried to get along. We tried for years. I’ve been begging him to even talk to me since we got married and I’ve been settling for the bare minimum. He can’t even look me in the eyes when he talks to me. He was so involved and loving until our honeymoon. He left me in Spain alone because of a small argument. Since we got married we’ve only been having small talk. Kinda like we’re roommates. It’s weird, nothing happened between us, it’s just his personality. He’s emotionally distant, scared to hug me, freaks out if I talk about things that aren’t positive. Hes quick to run out the door. After minor arguments he would leave the house and disappear for days\weeks to his mother’s house-and then come back as if nothing happened. He still does it and leaves me and our toddler alone for weeks. It’s so odd. He’s like that with his friends too and his own family. He just doesn’t talk.. unless he’s drunk. Anyway, long story short, I can’t keep living like this. I feel sorry that my child has to see her mother go through this. I don’t want her to think this is ok.. what do you think?

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No interest in difficult things

My son has just turned 4 and I’m finding it incredibly difficult. He has no interest in learning things that are slightly difficult for him. Gives up instantly no matter what I try to do to motivate him to try.

It’s mostly athletic/sporty things. Won’t kick a ball back and forth or football, learn to catch, float or swim. Definitely won’t try to learn to ride a bike, we’ve tried a balance bike but the balancing scared him. So tried a tricycle so the balancing isn’t an option but barely tries to push the pedals.

Honestly it’s starting to get me upset. Is this normal for his age? Anyone have any tips? Should I just ride it out? 😂

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