Mother day

I honestly just need to vent. Today is Mother’s Day and I feel like it’s just a normal day. My BabyDaddy/boyfriend asked me to make him breakfast this morning .. I did so I can surprise my own mother with breakfast in bed. Now he’s trying to plan something for tonight but his energy and his shit talking about how he has to pick a restaurant and blah blah blah make me feel like he doesn’t. I wasn’t expecting anything from him today anyways so the fact he’s trying I appreciate but with the shit talking I just feel like now it’s a forced thing . I asked if he appreciates me and he said he doesn’t wanna have that conversation, I told him if he really doesn’t want to do anything tonight we don’t have to, I don’t wanna force him and he just says that we not gonna have that conversation.. I feel like I’m losing my boyfriend. All he has been doing lately is complaining how annoying I am & how that I don’t treat him with respect when all I do is make sure the house is clean. Dinner is cooked. His lunches for work are made etc .
I tell him all the time if I’m so annoying and irritating to him to just leave me!!
I don’t know what to do anymore.

in our community

Would you divorce if…

…something terrible happened to your child(ren) while your husband was supposed to be watching them? Something terrible as in they got badly injured and almost died, or worse?

What do i do ?

Ladies please help! My boy is almost 8 months old and is still on pureed/lumpy foods. Any time i go to give him something more solid i have a complete anxiety attack, my legs go like jelly and my heart hammers out of my chest. Hes gagged twice before when i tried to give him toast and another time when I gave him on of them melty sticks, it foesnt help that hes a rammer ans shoves it all into his mouth.I just tried him with cucumber sticks, he was fine but I was thay scared I felt like I was going to pass out. I just cant do it. Am I depriving him if I dont give him finger foods/ affecting his development? He loves his food and eats a massive variety, its just spoon fed to him. What can I do to make this better?

Am I overreacting?

Yesterday my husband mentioned Social Service if they come to our house and what they think about it… because we have toys on the carpet our 2 years old playing with and couple of CLEAN diapers. The kitchen counter is a mess since I was packing for the family trip and garage sale coming this weekend. Right before he said it I came to tell him it’s a mess in the kitchen but I’m packing. Literally it’s not really a mess. He was serious and after I continued he later changed to “it was a joke, you didn’t get it, your are too sensitive and I wouldn’t call Social Service on me”. I said you wanted to call on me, to show how bad I’m as a mother. He said I’m crazy and I have a bad influence on kids because I didn’t let it fly. He started gaslighting me and blamed it was my fault even though I wasn’t the one bringing Social Service.

Today he was upset I was still acting not as normal and he said if you act like this you should stay at home and not go on vacation. I said ok and he changed to you are ruining your kids experience.. and asked me to act like normal one realising he won’t be able to take care of two kids by himself.

This is our first big family trip it’s already a lot of work..

Anyways how is your Mother’s Day going?

No interest in difficult things

My son has just turned 4 and I’m finding it incredibly difficult. He has no interest in learning things that are slightly difficult for him. Gives up instantly no matter what I try to do to motivate him to try.

It’s mostly athletic/sporty things. Won’t kick a ball back and forth or football, learn to catch, float or swim. Definitely won’t try to learn to ride a bike, we’ve tried a balance bike but the balancing scared him. So tried a tricycle so the balancing isn’t an option but barely tries to push the pedals.

Honestly it’s starting to get me upset. Is this normal for his age? Anyone have any tips? Should I just ride it out? 😂

Wrong right ?

I had childhood trauma and so does my husband to be fair - we both had very angry yelling cold type of parents (his dad and my mum) I always said I will not be that person for my child … we are both educators (but now I’m a stay at home mum) but what really really really got to me …

Today!
My sons tired, extremely moody because we were at a event yesterday till midnight and he’s had really poor sleep, so I understand his emotions (he’s 3 btw) so I’m being calm when managing his tantrums/metldowns etc. one of his heavy cars fell on his foot and out of rage he threw his little hot wheels car and it went the direction of the tv and broke the tv - my husband at the top of his lungs YELLED in my sons face, loads of words frankly not that my sons even understanding I saw he had already gone into a flight or fight panic …. So I intervened and told my husband to stop yelling it’s not going to help or get through to him about what he has done as he’s already shut off with fear … my husband continued to try yell.. I removed my son away from him. I get it the tv is broken we don’t have money for another but in my viewpoint I don’t see how YELLING loudly in a toddlers face is going to help either, not like he’s can fix the tv the most he can do is say sorry and not to throw things because this is the damage it does but again, he’s 3. At this time point, I’m fed up trying to make my husband understand how to speak or teach children yet flaunts that he works with children, his pride and ego and by the seems of it temper is a MASSIVE issue when teaching our son and frankly I’m done…

What are your thoughts because he seems to think I let my son get away with things - when actually I’m very stern with my son but teach him without having to SCREAM in his face

Sorry for the rant I am just extremely
Disappointed

in tears atm

So i just asked my partner to not play on his ps5 so we can spemd time and watch a movie together given it’s mother’s day today. And i was greeted with’ all my mates are playing, why can’t i, they have kids they are married why can’t i play’. Called me selfish. Acting like he has to listen to me like he has to sacrifice his games. Mind you he has all day tomorrow. Yeah I should’nt cry but i had a tough day with bub and this was the cherry on top.