Regretting my choice of partner
I met someone in February and I was pregnant in March, he was so sweet and good to me and one time sex led to pregnancy.
When we found out, I was shocked and he was so excited, soon I got with the program but then I realized he had so many flaws I never noticed until my first trimester when I needed him.
I stay on my own and when he visits, he is useless, I have to tell him to take the trash out, which he still manages to mess up. Long story short, the relationship has gone sour now, I dread seeing him and I definitely do not want him in my life forever.
I am 11 weeks and 6 days today, and I am considering getting an abortion but dating was a nightmare before him and I am 30 years old.
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I don't judge us you have an abortion but I can tell you that from my experience having a child changed my life for the better. I love having her and she is a wonderful person and I am honored to have birthed her. She is going to be 13 on a few months and we are so close. I wasnt really wanting to become pregnant at first but my boyfriend convinced me and I got off birth control and I dont regret it at all.. however we married when I was 6 months pregnant and he couldn't keep a job to same or family at when my daughter was 3 years old I left him. I been parenting in my own ever since. It's hard not it's worth it for me. But I understand your situation and why you wouldn't want to have the baby. It is very hard but very rewarding. I dont know how old you are so maybe if you are young or is best to wait and maybe even if you are older or is best to wait but I just wanted to tell you that it is possible to be a good single parent and enjoy your kid/ baby.
If you don't enjoy babies or kids or is probably best that you have an abortion or give the baby up. But if you do consider giving birth it has given my life so much meaning and it may do the same for you. If not I completely respect your decision.
Dating is hard and your expectation for him extremely grew when you found out you were pregnant. Be patient give him time consider that you were both raised differently. Have different values in our OK with different things. It takes time to address to a person. I love my partner. I love the father of my kid, however, sometimes I don’t know if it’s the PP hormones, but I feel our relationship is horrible and everything sucks and we’re not meant for each other and then I relax, and I realize it was just hormones
Do it. You’ll cry for a while but then your life will go on.
Work on making your life one that you’re happy. I can assure you that Mr Right will most likely come into your life once you’ve done that.
Having a child and raising them on your own will be very hard. Do you have people such as your mum who could look after your child some of the time? Having a baby will also make finding another partner a lot more challenging because you’ll be wanting to protect your child and they might be reluctant to take you on because you have a dependant.
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