Very stressed recently and shouting at my toddler

Girl ur not a bad mom it gets like that sometimes so much is going on and your carrying a lot more then what husband/kids ect see it’s hard i have the same problem just so much is going on around me I can’t see to calm down and theirs always that one thing that just makes your entire strong persona just cracks I try to take a deep breath and remind myself to just try to calm down because one day I’m going to miss all of the chaos but in the moment it is so hard I promise your not a bad mom your just tired overwhelmed/overstimulated plus having problems with your man dosent help so you constantly have things running through your head i was told it’s because our mind is stuck in fight or flight mode and with all the chaos going on it just makes it harder I can’t give much advice as to how to handle it as I’m going through the same thing but from a momma who understands I promise your not a bad mom your just tired

I’m going through the exact same thing. Just moved away from my family in March. Constant stressors. I just feel so out of control. I feel so guilty for being an overstimulated psycho. I’m trying to be better at recognizing when I need to take a breath and realize we’re both living life for the first time.

First, you are not a bad mom. We have all been there. I am currently there. As my husband and I were both so tired and sleep deprived, I found myself getting more and more irritable and angry all the time. Taking it out on both toddler and husband. Then I realized my toddler started picking up on it and I realized I needed to start changing. So just want to share some things that have helped me. First, laugh. They do something they shouldn't like touch the toilet or spill something. Laugh and say ai ai ai. Hearing that helps both you and toddler. If your at the end of your rope and you really can't anymore, find something that relaxes and make your feel different. Maybe its turning your favorite song on to full volume and singing or dancing. For me it's a piping hot bath. I let it run and then go in for 3 minutes. Let the heat calm me when I'm so overstimulated. My husband doesn't understand how I can do it cause my skin turns pink but it's the only thing that works. I promise you taking those 5-10 min helps

I started doing “recharge sessions” throughout the day that are 10 minutes to refuel. Think of it as being like a cell that has to be plugged in to be recharged… or a car stopping by the gas station. I will take a 10 minutes pause break to focus on myself…a cup of coffee or tea, prayer, reading bible, listen to motivational stories, skincare, shower, brushing teeth, hair care, supplements… anything specifically FOR ME only. It helps to not have so much build up when u are constantly releasing it.

Same here, packing and unpacking with a toddler was… an experience. He put his head in the toilet.. i crashed out… then cried about it in the closet floor 🙂‍↕️😭