Surrogate mothers

This is a random question that I was generally just curious about the other day and I figured someone here would have the answer... but after surrogate mothers give birth, do they produce breast milk? What happens next with that? Do they pump and keep giving it to the parents of the baby? If not do they have to pump until it dries up so they don't keep getting engorged? Maybe they donate it or sell it? I don't ever plan on being a surrogate but I was just generally curious about this lol

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I can't speak from a surrogate pov but you don't have to pump or breastfeed the milk will just dry up

I saw a TikTok from a surrogate where she explains the parents continue to pay her for pumping milk

Hey I was a surrogate for my aunt and there is 2 opinions you can pump and give to birth parents or there is a now a pill that the birth mother takes and she will start producing milk

You can pump and provide to the parents, or if the parents don’t want to use the breast milk (maybe don’t live near surrogate or prefer formula instead) so the surrogate can donate breast milk or not pump at all.

Well they birthed a real baby so they will definitely experience postpartum like everyone else.
What they do with their breastmilk, if anything at all, would just depend on the person.

I've considered and probably would still be a surrogate and I'd probably donate my milk depending on how it fits into my lifestyle at the time.

Most surrogates give the milk to the intended parents or they dry up their supply.

Plenty of people give birth and don’t breastfeed at all, their supply would just dry up.

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