Struggling with mental health as a mum

Has anyone else found their mental health has really taken a hit since becoming a mum? I love my LO more than anything, but some days feel overwhelming and like I’m not even here or a whole person. I just want to do my best for my baby but my anxiety and depression are bad. I would like to know if anyone else felt this?

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Hey, same here.. some days more than others. I found that going out for walks and having a conversation with someone else (friend or strangers) really helps.
I also decided to take some meditation to help me get through this. Is that something you’d consider? Xx

Yes some days moreso than others. I'm 4m pp and at times i feel like i dont know who i am apart from a mum. I had an assessment with the health visitor at 2m pp and she recommended I see the mental health nurse at my GP. When I did (3m pp) they put me on medication and referred me to talking therapies (starting in June). Would you consider anything like that at all? Also getting out helps; I'm not overly social but I try to do park walks and pushing myself to go to parent and baby groups

Yes. Now less so than in the first few months, but the initial transition is brutal! Do you have support? At home? And with your mental health?

I felt like this. You are not alone (I know it feels like it sometimes). There is support out there to help us mums transition from being just us to being a mam. I got bad post natal aniexty with my first child, ended up seeing someone who give me tips and tricks to help me. Go to your gp they can sign post you to the right places as well.

I am also a message away if you ever want to chat.

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