Sleep training - possibly using Ferber method?

So my baby is 8 months old and we are currently cosleeping at night and contact naps during the day because as soon as you put him down he wakes up. Hes
exclusively breastfed but I can tell a he wakes up a few times at night just because he wants to comfort suck and go back to sleep. He doesn’t take the dummy.

I’m very tired, he wakes up multiple times at night. So I’m considering the Ferber method to sleep train him. I do take the idea of letting him cry but I’m not sure what else would work, has anybody tried the pick up pick down method but in the Ferber framework?

Also if you did try Ferber how long did it take it for it to work for you and how long did you baby cry for?

Any ideas on either Ferber or any other sleep training method is appreciated! Thank you

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My baby the same oops I’m just riding it out but yeah exhausting

My baby is the same way exclusively breastfed my pediatrician advised me the Ferber method I try for 2-3 days but it was too much for me to let her cry so for now I’m just embracing it unfortunately 🥲
I know how it can be exhausting, good luck 🫶🏻

Every form of ‘sleep training’, especially Ferber, is a form of CIO. It’s detrimental to their development and affects their brain in a way that will stay with them for the rest of their life. I promise it’s not worth it!
Make the process of latching easier - topless, good position, nightlight to help him see. Make the C-curl comfy enough for yourself so you can sleep while he’s latched, support pillow behind your back and between your knees can help. Get a white noise machine with cry detection so it automatically turns on when he wakes and helps both of you go right back to sleep. Try getting a second let down while he’s latched so he sleeps a bit deeper/longer.
He’s meant to wake up multiple times a night, 8 month olds need to be breastfed on demand, that includes at nighttime! It’s also protective against SIDS.
You can’t control your baby’s sleep, only how you respond to it.
Once he’s confidently mobile he’ll be latching by himself and you won’t even wake for it

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