What’s everyone’s thoughts?
I am looking for some advice, please. My husband ended the relationship a month ago and it is just now me and my one-year-old baby at home.
Because obviously we now need to coparent I am really struggling with managing this because my husband literally wants to come every other day, if not every day.
There is no set days in place as he says that he wants to be here as much as possible and when he comes it is like he is back. He just chills on the sofa, eats food, eats meals and drinks coffee.
I said to him, do you want to set days and he said he is my child, I want to see him as much as I can. I don’t mind him at all seeing our baby that is not the issue whatsoever. It is just it doesn’t feel right when he is coming pretty much every single day, but we aren’t together?
It is pretty much like he just doesn’t sleep here
What is everyone’s takes on this or has anyone else been through something similar?
Would this annoy you?
On my husbands side of the family his mum has lots of close family friends (aunties) we call them aunty -insert their name-. They have all decided to call themsleves grandparents.
Grandma -insert name- ....
I dont like it. I find it too much that they've decided they get to be called grandparents. Theyre not blood related and although theyre close friends to my MIL. They are not my kids grandparents so I dont like them calling themselves that.
All my uncles and aunties are great uncle -insert name. Or I like to call them uncle -insert name- the great for fun. I wouldnt call them grandma or grandad. To me it is special to be a grand parent. You dont get to just chose that youre grandma this or grandma that. Also my step mum finds it really special to her that we gave her granma title, her kids aren't close with her so its reallt special to her that she has been given that title. So for all these people just to be deciding they get that title too kind of makes it feel less special and I also think it would make her upset to know all these people have the same title. (Like she says thank you so much for letting me be grandma to your child, its so special to me- just for her to find out my daughter has 10 granmas, kind of takes away from her being given that title if you get me)
Like its a privilege to be a grandparent, not a right, you also dont get to decide youre a grandparent when youre not.
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