Do you provide opportunities for your children to engage in “heavy work”

If yes, what type of activities?

https://actlearningcentre.ca/heavy-work/

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Absolutely. Help regulate my son I’ve noticed. Our current fav is asking him to move the laundry basket to the machine.

I have never thought about it, but we do actually wrestle, I lay on him, we tickle, roll over etc. And I allow him to lift heavy things any time I can, such as shopping items, watering can...

Yes 10000%

we have a tanagram play couch, it came with like a big base pit that’s square shaped & a bunch of different sized pillows & either he’ll burrow his own way under it or we will put it ontop of him, and then we throw the lil different shaped pillows ontop of it and he’ll work his way out from under all of it,
He’ll also just lift bottles of juice out to the play kitchen and back into the real kitchen lmfao

I also count practicing handstands as part of heavy work idk if it really is considered part of it, but to me it seems to be lol

My LG (22months)has always helped me empty and load the washing machine - she'll unload it herself now so saves me a job 😆 she likes carrying things, helping me push the washing basket etc etc. When we made a mud kitchen outside she was with us pulling weeds and using the shovel. I think a lot of these movements in the article are natural movements, just not for parents or kids who have ridiculous screen time and are sat down

Yes and jump on the opportunity when they take an interest, start forming good habits early

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