Parenting styles in the long run from experience..

I’m a first time mum to a 7 month old baby girl. Im exclusively breastfeeding, co sleeping and hoping to raise her to be securely attached.

Ive worked in nurseries in my early adulthood so i’ve seen all types of attachment styles and how it affects the early years.

Im trying to do everything the ‘right way’ in my mind but how has the above affected the future with your kids? Has it been positive/negative and how does it affect you as a mother?

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Hi I still breastfeed and Cosleep at 28 months and for the last few months I've felt a bit conflicted. So, I'm so so happy how physically and mentally advanced he is, confident to talk to anyone, very affectionate with me, as that's the product of living in security. However he does run away in public spaces due to lack of fear, he still wakes to breastfeed about 5 times a night, and isn't afraid to fight for his wants. These things are killing me but I'm really trying to hold onto the future, that he won't do this forever. He is my little baby still after all, soon he'll be a teenager and sleep all day. I really really hope when he's a teenager he will come to me with problems and never feel afraid I'll stop loving him

I wanted to stop at 1 but I'm too tired to face a night of screaming tbh. I should have definitely dealt with a screaming 12 month old instead of now being stuck with this huge strong boy

He feeds between 0-4 times a day depending on his feelings, how much he asks for it. And yes he drinks from all cup types. He has a bed time bottle then lays down to breastfeed. However I have significantly less milk than even a year ago, he's definitely just suckling for comfort I know that. And part of me struggles to take away what comforts him

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