How old was your baby when they showed a close bond with their dad?
My baby is currently 3 months old, and still showing a strong preference for mum. I'm exclusively breastfeeding, so completely expect to do all the feeds, but our baby also seems to need me to soothe and settle for naps.
My husband has always been keen to be a hands-on dad, but he's finding it quite demoralising that our baby often cried when left with him, and hasnt settled to sleep on dad since the early newborn days.
I left the baby with dad for a hour yesterday evening, while I had a doctor's appt, and apparently he scream-cri3d the whole time. My husband is feeling very discouraged that the baby doesn't seem to love/trust him, and I would really appreciate being able to have a break sometimes and leave the baby with his dad.
Is there an age where your baby stopped being so attached to mum, and was happy with other people? Did a dad-bond develop naturally over time, or do I need to make more of a conscious effort to leave them alone together?
Thank you 😊
Have you ever..
So you hear other women telling their birth stories, right? Or are in the environment where they’re being shared.
Have you ever been listening and they get real dramatic about something specific happening to them, like say “they took 4 times to get an IV in and left me bruised” or “oh I had to have a blood bag hung” and you think oh I went through different, I’ll say different because “worse” is subjective.
But I mean like you realize oh I had 3 bags of blood hung, or I had multiple IVs and bruised, arm blew up with saline
Yet realize, you’ve never been given the praise or attention you see them get or others with different experiences than yours, and have you just felt.. some type of way about it. I honestly can’t even describe it, it’s like jealousy of them getting credit when you’ve never been told good job but almost died and no one ever cares when you tell your story.
Feeling very possessive…
I’m sure it’s not just me but I’d love to hear from other moms about this. I’m feeling so incredibly possessive of this baby and like I need to maybe chill out? I don’t know… it’s my first baby so everything is very new and she’s only 3 weeks old. I’m still learning about her so whenever people offer to take her so we can have a “break” my mind goes crazy at just the thought. She’s just so little and fresh to the world, I couldn’t imagine leaving her for more than an hour with anyone, even family. My MIL offered recently, and I know it’s a spirit of offense coming in play here because she seriously pissed me off during baby’s birth, but I don’t think I could leave her with her GMA! MIL is also slightly narcissistic and a bit of a loud mouth so I struggle with trusting her. I don’t think she’d harm baby, but she makes slick comments that I’d prefer she didn’t put on my child while we’re away. A friend of mine offered to watch her while I napped and the thought made me cringe… I’d rather be tired than be away from her right now. Baby is EBF and pumping has been hard cause she’s constantly eating so I worry that she won’t be fed well or won’t settle for anyone cause she’s so used to being settled by my boob, she doesn’t take the paci and will literally gag if it’s in her mouth… but she’s such a good baby I know it won’t be a huge issue if someone watches her for a bit… idk 😭 my anxiety just won’t let me be away from her.
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