4am wake up

My baby is 9 weeks old and wakes up by 4am every single day, she will fall asleep on me around 5.30 but won’t settle back in her cot. When will this phase pass and is there anything I can do to push it later? She has her last big feed at 1am so she shouldn’t be hungry.

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it can be normal for babies to wake up at 4/5am at that age. their sleep is usually lighter at that time and it is naturally colder between 4-6am. around 3-6m babies start getting better at producing melatonin and develop a circadian rhythm.

could it be that she is cold in her cot? could try setting the heating to come on around 3:30 for a bit to warm up the room a tad.

she also could be hungry. just because she has a feed at 1am doesn’t mean she isn’t hungry at 4am - all babies are different and my LO fed at midnight and around 3/4am
during the night at that age.

try to keep the room dark and not engage w her like it’s morning, i used to not talk and only whisper if i did and a very low light on x

I still get nights like this and my little girl is 3 months old, it has gotten a lot better than what it was though!
she now gets the odd night where she will sleep until 10pm - 530am but most days she will wake up at 330. I think it’s just if you get lucky or not 🤣

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