Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Hand washing.

I need opinions on this.
I have worked in hospitals most of my life so I know hand washing is important.
I noticed a while back when my mum washes her hands she only uses water, no soap.
I did say something and she didn’t take it well and also said that the reason we are so poorly these days is cos we are too clean!
I don’t agree and I’ve recently just had a baby and she’s been visiting and I noticed when she went to take the bin out for me she didn’t wash her hands afterwards… I’m not sure why she doesn’t think hand washing is important and honestly it’s driving me mad cos if I say anything it causes tension and she says I’m overbearing and I’ve got OCD cos I make my kid wash his hands frequently 🙄

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Rant/vent. Pic of what I almost posted today.

I almost posted this today and honestly still debating on if I should. My ride or die, would be gay for, bestie of a lifetime, and is supposed to be the god mom to my daughter. Hasn’t spoken to me since the day my daughter was born because she doesn’t like my daughter’s father. Him and I went through a rough patch during my pregnancy. He has ptsd and shut down for basically my entire pregnancy. He admitted that he made a mistake and is/has been working on himself to be better. She put me in the position of it’s her or him. I made it a point that if he wanted to have a relationship with our daughter I am going to give him that chance to have one with our daughter. He has made huge progress and I still love him even if what he did wasn’t ok. My other set of people I wanted as god parents also haven’t talked me to because they weren’t informed on when I went into labor. They found out when I announced to everyone that I had my daughter and they got upset because they didn’t get a private message. Baby daddy was about to send a message but I hit send first. I’m just so overwhelmed and tired.

Yes my PPD is under control, yes my daughter and I are safe, yes I have the support of my baby daddy - his family - and my family, I’m just over people who think they know what’s best for my child even though they’ve not bothered to talk to me or see her.

Am I a bad SAHM for not taking my toddler out every day?

I constantly feel guilty for not doing daily outings with my toddler and spending more time at home. My neighbour makes me feel bad about it and has threatened to call cps. We have quiet mornings not to bother anyone. This generally includes numbers, colours, puzzles, sorting, crafts, etc. Then independent play so I can eat. He also has a toddler gym where he can climb and the noisier toys for later in the day. I spend a lot of time meal prepping. I'm also doing all the cleaning inside the house amongst other indoor tasks. I try to finish quickly or do everything in one day to have a walk after breakfast and a trip to the park after nap time the next day, but I get tired sometimes. We do go out every weekend to socialize and do family outings, but i generally aim for 3-4 hrs outside from Monday to Friday, although some weeks may be less. I'm wondering if I really am in the wrong here. Pls help !

dad taking over?

anyone else feel like their babys dad is taking over?
im 4 weeks postpartum, and while im SO grateful that he’s a hands on dad (the bare minimum) i cant help but feel like im literally only here to breastfeed. he lets me sleep more than him but i feel like hes always there, always watching, always taking her from me, always giving me passive aggressive and condescending ‘advice’ ???
ive been feeling like i cant connect with baby and that alongside the stress of breastfeeding is making me so overwhelmed and i dont know what to do.
i guess i just want to know if im the only one? :/

8 month old prefers dad

I’m starting to feel like my baby hates me, he always smiles at dad but hardly at me. Google says he’ll prefer his primary care giver which is me but he doesn’t and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong

feeling stuck?

anyone feeling like everyday is the same? i try get out the house everyday but some days i just feel so unbothered but i still have to feed the baby, dress her every hour because of her reflux and change her its a constant cycle, its just so tiring right now, I love my baby but everyday feels the exact same and its really just hitting me. My husband gets to do what he wants (yes he works) but he has the freedom to do what he wants, whereas me i cant because im with the baby 24/7 theres days where im lucky if i use the toilet more than twice. its getting really exhausting, when does it get better or does it?

How would you handle this?

Hi mamas. I’m in my late 30s and have been married for 14 years and have 3 children. My husband is a good husband and father but i feel like he puts his friends before his family. His boss is his friend (they have been friends for many years) and he will stay over at work until late in the night every certain day chilling with him and a few other friends.This has created a cycle where every weekend we wont talk as i would get upset and i tend to keep quiet when i’m upset.To keep the peace,I’ve let it go even though it just doesn’t feel right as i’m sure every wife would like their husband to come home to them especially at the end of a long week. We have 3 kids and i do everything on my own so i look forward to having him home.Problem is he is now starting to come home later like early hours of the morning. These guys don’t drink and smoke etc and i trust my husband but i just feel like it is disrespectful especially knowing that i have a problem with it and he continues to do it? He says they aern’t doing anything wrong. Just eating out or playing Playstation. I’ve had to learn to put up with it because whenever i communicate how i feel about it he ends up having a tantrum.These guys will then chill together again the next day in the weekend. We can be out with the family and this friend can call to check where he is and if he is going to chill with them.So here i am asking if this normal? Do your husbands spend this much time with their friends as well? Is this what is going on out there?Do i need to just relax and get over it? I have no one to speak to and my husband has no reason to not want to come home after work so i am so confused. Thank you for listening to my vent.❤️