intimacy with my man….
hey ladies , sooooo to jump right into this my man has been complaining about our fun time & saying i never want to “ put out “ but it’s kind of hard when he says things like “ I want to get you pregnant again “ “ I miss making love with no protection “ “ when you were pregnant I could finish inside of you “ ( I know sorryyyy tmi ) but I just need validation . i’m 3yrs pp yay , i’m finally starting to feel like myself & get my body back & in no way am I ready for another child & honestly i’m in the mindset of 1 & DONE . i love my son & he’s more than enough . but I feel like he wants another one or at least wants me pregnant cause “ I wanted him more “ or because he was able to not wear protection . but now when we do make love he pisses me off because he TAKES OFF THE CONDOM without me noticing & I get mad cause dude i’m not trying to get PREGNANT ! but then he gives me the sob story of how he can’t feel it with it on & it doesn’t feel good…. like dude idc im trying to stay protected . so it honestly makes me not want to do anything with him ! also my labido has been off since I gave birth . I don’t care to have that pleasure anymore… but I know he “ needs it “ . idk what to do . & yes i’ve talked to him about it & he just says “ I don’t remember taking it off “ or try’s lie saying he never took it off . & he just gets mad at me saying he’s so frustrated cause I don’t “ put out anymore “…..
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1. Definitely figure out some other form of protection. Keep with condoms for extra safety but you can look into family planning if you're regular, birth control, spermicide.... something. He obviously can't be trusted to do the right thing by you.
2. If you want to increase you libido, maybe a supplement will help.
3. Most of the time for women intimacy isn't always about sex. So figure out where it's lacking and communicate that to him if you haven't already.
4. Taking off the condom without you knowing is assault. It's not funny or cute and him knowing that you don't want another baby and still doing that isn't okay. Sending you all the love.
Ugh, men.... I'm so sorry that he's not listening to your needs. 3 years PP, have you had any time to be you, not mommy? Like you and him going out on regular dates? Maybe that can help you get in the mood, being appreciated and doted on like the amazing and beautiful woman you are, not just a MILF for his pleasure....
I'm guessing you don't want to take birth control, which I totally understand, side effects, yuck!! He doesn't like the condom.... you don't want more kids.... is he about actually making another baby or just for the real feel during the deed?? Maybe he should get a vasectomy, then after the doc confirms he's shooting blanks, he won't need the condom.... I hope things work out for you, in your favor. Take care of yourself....💜
Does he know he can get a vasectomy? The above comment is right about the condom, it’s sexual assault. Married or not. You didn’t consent to sex without a condom. Maybe your libido would be higher if you weren’t dealing with situations like that.
Girl get an iud
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