Pre baby nesting jobs

Looking for ideas of stuff to keep me occupied / nesting whilst I’m on MAT before baby gets here.

Looking more so for organising jobs like decluttering the house, reorganising wardrobe, wiping skirting boards. I’ve got a list but just wondered if there’s anything excitingly dull that I’ve missed 😂

Stuff that I’ll appreciate not needing to do once baby is here

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dad taking over?

anyone else feel like their babys dad is taking over?
im 4 weeks postpartum, and while im SO grateful that he’s a hands on dad (the bare minimum) i cant help but feel like im literally only here to breastfeed. he lets me sleep more than him but i feel like hes always there, always watching, always taking her from me, always giving me passive aggressive and condescending ‘advice’ ???
ive been feeling like i cant connect with baby and that alongside the stress of breastfeeding is making me so overwhelmed and i dont know what to do.
i guess i just want to know if im the only one? :/

8 month old prefers dad

I’m starting to feel like my baby hates me, he always smiles at dad but hardly at me. Google says he’ll prefer his primary care giver which is me but he doesn’t and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong

Childcare Gov account- help

Hi there, can I get a bit of advice with my childcare gov account. For background I have a 6 year old and a 6 month old who is yet to start nursery. When I log on and click the ‘free childcare for parents’ menu both kids are listed with their own codes. We have yet to give my LOs code to the nursery.
However when I click the ‘your tax-free childcare account’ only my eldest is listed. Is this normal at this stage or have I missed a step? Thanks!

Dilemmaaaa

so I have twin 8month old babies and it’s my first cousin’s wedding on sunday, from 10am until very late… partner’s parents are going to babysit, and me and partner were going to stay until about 6pm… but then the dinner part doesn’t even start until 7pm…! we can’t ask partner’s parents to stay much later as they’re already coming round early in the morning. my cousin is begging at least for me to stay for the dinner but I feel bad to let partner go home alone and put the twins to bed (it’s a lotttttt)… but then a) my cousin said she only gets married once… b) his parents will still be there to help… c) it’s one night and if it was other way round I would do it for him ……… but a) what if they don’t go to sleep… b) his parents judge if i am out late… c) what if he resents me after (he is like that) …
Any advice or suggestions or persuasion tips pleeeeeease comment!!!

Would you use this car seat protector under your car seat?

Okay my husband and I keep butting heads over my car. He wants it much cleaner than I have the time or energy to keep up with -> he won’t clean it though.

I’m tired of butting head over this and I’m considering using this thing.

I’ve seen ones that are split but I don’t really see how that system would help me keep the seat clean unlike this single one.

I just spent two hours scrubbing my seats yesterday. I deep clean once a month and take it to the car wash every Monday on top of that I pick up trash daily and put any free items in the bins system I’m using. (One under each of my kids for their toys and one in the trunk for random things so they are flying around .

I’ve come a long way with car maintenance but all he ever sees is what I’m doing wrong and I’m over it.

Is this costing me my marriage ?

Ladies I’m struggling. I’m a mama is 2 gorgeous boys they are my absolute everything but I can’t help but feel like there’s another little person missing from my life. I’ve been sure about having a 3rd since my youngest was about 6 months old (he’s now 2 and a half) my husband on the other hand says he absolutely doesn’t want any more kids and that I should be lucky we have 2 because as much as he loves our 2nd & wouldn’t change it for the world he didn’t really imagine having more than 1. When I ask why he doesn’t want to have another one he never has a good reason it’s always ‘because I just don’t’. I’ve been able to keep a lid on wanting a 3rd for a little while but recently we had a scare and thought I may have been pregnant but it looked like it was just a false positive & he was so relieved but it’s absolutely broken me. It made me realise that this is not something I’m going to be able to get over & it’s starting to make me resent my husband. I feel like he’s the only obstacle in my way and I get angry even just being in his space & I know that sounds awful but it’s true. I feel really sad all the time thinking about never having another baby and I’d go as far as to say it may be affecting my mental health & im worried that the resentment is just going to continue to grow to a point where it’s not fixable. He won’t even sit down and have a conversation about it & understand why it means so much to me. He just shuts me down and says I don’t want another baby and that’s final get over it or I’m not even having this conversation with you because you know how I feel.

How do I get over this or fix this before it’s too late ?