Porn concerns
I’m 12 weeks postpartum. 2 weeks ago I picked up my husband’s phone to take a picture of our daughter (I’ve always known his passcode and passwords) then went to check the zoo times on the internet (my phone was not in the room). When I went to the internet tabs I saw a photo of a woman’s butt in a thong swimsuit. I clicked into it and saw it was a ‘fansly’ page. I scrolled up and saw the top of the swimsuit too with like… gigantic boobs. I asked him about it and he said it must have been an ad. I was hurt about it and he was mad I didn’t trust him. I struggled for a day or so, but had an appointment with my therapist who helped me think of the facts- I’ve never seen anything like this since we’ve been together (2022), I have all his passwords, and he has never been gone without explanation (he’s pretty much at work or with me). So… I decided to trust him. Fast forward to today. He was showing me something on his bank account (we have our own and a joint account) and I saw a charge for ‘fansly’. I went back a month and saw two charges for this month and last. I was obviously upset and he said that it must have been from an account before we met (if he has paid for it all this time it is like… $4,000). I then asked for his phone, which he gave willingly. I opened the incognito tabs and saw multiple tabs of porn (not ‘fansly’ I don’t think- I wasn’t paying attention to that). I asked him to explain and he said he sometimes looks at it but it’s been ‘a long time’. I asked further questions and he said he looked at it ‘when we couldn’t’ (aka the first 6 weeks postpartum- I had an emergency C-section) and sometimes before but ‘not often’ while he was at home without me (we have different days off and he gets off earlier than I do). I’m not sure how to move forward. I don't want him to see me naked right now- not even to breastfeed our baby. I love him, but to me porn is a not acceptable. He closed the tabs and said he wouldn’t look at it again. Has anyone gone through this? Any advice? I don’t want to be a single mom. He is my best friend. I just don’t know how to trust him again.
Is my toddler naughty or just a toddler?😅
So I have two childless friends who’ve made a few comments about my son. He’s just over two, and is deep in the terrible twos. He’s lovely & so funny, but yes there’s a lot of tempers. He doesn’t always listen to me, or eat all his meals, he loves his snacks & stands on the sofa.
I feel these things are part of being a toddler, he’s not hitting, biting or being mean to other children - but is he perfect no! We do have tempers, mainly if he’s over tired. Am I doing something wrong?? I don’t think I’m soft, but I don’t think I’m super strict either - yet my friends have implied they would be stricter with their kids. It’s got in my head massively.
Any tips welcome, just trying to be the best mum I can🫶🏻
not really drama related buuut
yall can call me delulu all you want but me and my baby daddy broke up almost a week ago, and i been desperate to get that mf back and i saw on tiktok that you can do this thing where you write a letter to yourself but imagining it’s from him and you write all the shit you would want him to say, and then you kiss it with lipstick and spray with perfume and put it under your pillow before bed after reading it out aloud to yourself… well i did that and a lil extra, so i wrote it, then put my lipstick on and kissed the letter in 3 different places 3 times, then folded it toward me 3x and then kissed it again 3x and then sprayed it 3x cuz ive seen about doing stuff in 3s helps
or smth. i did that around 22 hours ago, and not even half an hour ago he messaged me saying he wants to run it back 😝😝😝😝 call me delulu all you want but im telling you that shit WORKS 😭
