Nursery help/advice

I am a first time mum and want the best for my little girl, she is incredibly smart and she’s almost 2, she knows colours counts to ten sings songs, she’s very clever, I applied for nursery 9-3 but they don’t have that available they have 1-6:30 but her bath and bed routine starts at 5:30 she’s in bed by 6:45, I originally was going to look at a part time job in the 9-3 hours but that wouldn’t work as she would be picked up at 4:30 to get home and settled for bed! I am looking for advice is it worth her going at 2, did anyone have a child that went at 3 and 2 and what was the difference? I am a stuck mummy because of course i want her home but i also want the best but before this new funding came in, children went at 3 unless you paid for it? ANY ADVICE WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED 🫣

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Porn concerns

I’m 12 weeks postpartum. 2 weeks ago I picked up my husband’s phone to take a picture of our daughter (I’ve always known his passcode and passwords) then went to check the zoo times on the internet (my phone was not in the room). When I went to the internet tabs I saw a photo of a woman’s butt in a thong swimsuit. I clicked into it and saw it was a ‘fansly’ page. I scrolled up and saw the top of the swimsuit too with like… gigantic boobs. I asked him about it and he said it must have been an ad. I was hurt about it and he was mad I didn’t trust him. I struggled for a day or so, but had an appointment with my therapist who helped me think of the facts- I’ve never seen anything like this since we’ve been together (2022), I have all his passwords, and he has never been gone without explanation (he’s pretty much at work or with me). So… I decided to trust him. Fast forward to today. He was showing me something on his bank account (we have our own and a joint account) and I saw a charge for ‘fansly’. I went back a month and saw two charges for this month and last. I was obviously upset and he said that it must have been from an account before we met (if he has paid for it all this time it is like… $4,000). I then asked for his phone, which he gave willingly. I opened the incognito tabs and saw multiple tabs of porn (not ‘fansly’ I don’t think- I wasn’t paying attention to that). I asked him to explain and he said he sometimes looks at it but it’s been ‘a long time’. I asked further questions and he said he looked at it ‘when we couldn’t’ (aka the first 6 weeks postpartum- I had an emergency C-section) and sometimes before but ‘not often’ while he was at home without me (we have different days off and he gets off earlier than I do). I’m not sure how to move forward. I don't want him to see me naked right now- not even to breastfeed our baby. I love him, but to me porn is a not acceptable. He closed the tabs and said he wouldn’t look at it again. Has anyone gone through this? Any advice? I don’t want to be a single mom. He is my best friend. I just don’t know how to trust him again.

Festival packing

Hello

For those that have taken a toddler to a festival (camping) - what are your must pack items and recommendations please?
Thank you.

What do you eat (EBF mummas)

My baby is 4 months old now. I have not lost 1lb of my pregnancy weight and I'd like to fit back into my clothes one day 😆. I'm curious what you other EBF mums eat generally to reflect on whether I am eating enough or the right things.

Why does my husband act as if he doesn’t trust me

My husband acts as if he doesn’t trust me he keeps saying don’t get too lonely and keeps saying it’s weird you’re in the bedroom.

I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong in his mind. Our kids aren’t getting into anything and is behaving and my older 2 is watching tv in the living room and I don’t want to be in the living room and watching what they are watching.