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Venting (judge free)

AITA??

For context my MIL and me have had a good relationship up until I got pregnant, when we first had told her she was excited like any new grandparent obviously. But the excitement turned into entitlement pretty quickly. I’d want to look at a certain pram and she’d tell me no and list a thousand reasons why I should get the one she had with her kids. Or I’d want to buy the first outfit and she got angry and told me she wanted to be the first one as it’s her first grandbaby. Bear in mind this is our first child too..she came to 1 scan with us and we had invited her for a 4D scan but when she had asked if her boyfriend at the time could also come I said no. We don’t know this man so why on earth would I share private memories with him?? They haven’t even been together a full year yet. So she said she wasn’t coming. And since then she has accused us of pushing her out as the grandma, I’m being awful and taking this experience away from her as I had told her it’s just going to be me and husband in the room when I give birth.
She had asked if I was gonna have visitors and I said no.
She then asked if I was gonna tell her if I was in labour I also said it depends on how things go honestly, being on my phone or my husband calling/texting everyone is gonna be last on our lists during a time like that.
She had asked for us to give all the baby stuff she’d brought back to her because we sat back and let her spend a fortune and we’re keeping things from her. So I gave it back..
She told me she’d take things legal to have alone time with our baby because she doesn’t understand why she should be “watched”.
Fast forward baby is here and we went to go visit, it’s hot where we are right now so she didn’t have socks on and immediately she flies into a rage, she took baby off me and like held her back and shouted why didn’t she have socks on.. we’re in public.. I say she’s fine don’t worry it’s a hot day I’ve got some in my bag if she needs it. She then tells me “when it concerns my grandchild I want to know why your not dressing her properly” now I did loose my temper because excuse me?? So I said when it concerns MY child I will do what I feel is right. Took my baby off her and left. Since then she has been messaging my husband how I’m unfit as a mother and I should be ashamed of myself for letting her grandbaby “freeze”. It was 34degrees out.. I dread having to speak or see her, there’s always something to say to try and make me seem like I’m inferior to her as a mother..when she walked out on her kids to be with another man when they was little.. so she can’t speak on me too much but if I say any of this then I’m the asshole.