Going from 2-3, Help! 😩

My 2 step-daughters live with us full time, and have done for nearly 5 years. We now have our 4week old baby boy and I'm really struggling with how a routine will ever come into place.

I had a C-section so have not been doing many of the school runs as I'm unable to drive. My mum has been living with us during the week to help as my partner had to go back to work 4 days after bringing baby home.

We are getting closer to the time my mum won't be here to help and I'll be doing all of the school runs (and all other things that come with being a mum and running a house) and I do not know how I'm going to get out the door at 8am - let alone keep everyone organised and settled.

Parenting isn't new to me but being a mummy to a new born baby is so I feel a little lost.

Any advice welcome!

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Work backwards with time and allow extra time in top. Give the step daughters some independence so they can get ready with assistance so you can feed and dress baby. Prep the night before laying out each persons clothing. Get cereals out with bowls ready on the table. Anything you can do to make it easier in the morning

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You will be fine I promise. I’ve had 3 c sections, my kids are 2,1 and 8 weeks. I have no village and husband works so it’s literally all on me. Don’t change your current routine, your baby adapts to your routine. I have to get the 2 oldest to nursery for 8:30, so out the door by 8. I don’t have any advice but just to reassure you you ain’t alone and it does work out. It will take a few weeks to find your flow and that’s okay. My baby always wants a bottle on the school run so I’m slowly trying to shift it back or forward. There’s no magic wand. You can only do what you can do. I find coming back from school run when baby is sleeping that’s when I do majority of my cleaning and tidying etc, then what I don’t get done, I try and do throughout the day, but do the jobs you mostly want done first and then go from there. I didn’t have help so I was back driving the same week for school runs etc. it’s tough but us mums are made of something special. Just remember it’s okay to have bad days

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I would try to work around baby’s waking times. I have a 6 year old and a 15 week old. I feed baby at 6:30-7am then ensure baby is ready so I can focus on getting 6 year old ready to leave on time. I also have to remind her every 2 mins to get ready. Once you have done it for a few days it will be one second nature

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I had a C-section so have not been doing many of the school runs as I'm unable to drive. My mum has been living with us during the week to help as my partner had to go back to work 4 days after bringing baby home.

We are getting closer to the time my mum won't be here to help and I'll be doing all of the school runs (and all other things that come with being a mum and running a house) and I do not know how I'm going to get out the door at 8am - let alone keep everyone organised and settled.

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