Children hate each other

My children can’t ever be together. They’re at different levels developmentally - one’s a 5 year old girl and the other is a 2 year old boy. They don’t get along and won’t share toys, they constantly shout at each other, and hurt each other. My son bites my daughter, my daughter hits him with a stick or punches him in the stomach.

It’s all fine when it’s during the week because my daughter is at school and I have my son home with me. Everyone is happy. As soon as my daughter comes home, the atmosphere changes and the fighting starts. They feed off each other so it’s not just my daughter. It’s them being together in general.

I’m dreading the school holiday which are coming up. I’m a stay at home mum so I’ll have both of them by myself all day every day and I just don’t know what to do. Sometimes I’m so overstimulated by the arguing that I have to walk away and let them battle it out but it never ends well.

I literally don’t know what to do

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I have no advice except breathing deeply and staying calm along with teaching them self regulation on repeat, which I’m sure you already are doing. But thank you for posting this, it helps people to understand that just giving your child a sibling does not mean they will play together and entertain each other. It’s a common myth and people something try to convince me in that.

My niece is two years old and my nephew is about to be 11 or 12. I believe he’s currently being checked out for autism.
They might literally fight all the time, but it’s not because they don’t like each other. It’s what siblings do that’s what I did with my sister and she was a year older than me and I did it with my little brother who was eight years younger than me.

But I’m not gonna lie there’s beautiful moments for they are calm and getting along and that’s because they’re doing something that interests them both children’s times span like for attention is super short so for the most part, Olga is correct breathe deeply and stay calm
We also need to take a consideration that play fighting might be them getting along until it crosses a line and then they don’t see it as playing anymore

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