No sex

My husband always finds excuses not to have sex and most of the time it's because of the childrens and when we do it is only 2 minutes. This can't go on. I'm a woman and I have needs.This has been going on for probably 2 years now.

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Have u tried talking to him nd seeing where he’s at in your guys relationship? I mean some relationships don’t do sex much anymore when you have alot on your plate yk it be worth trying if u really need it

It’s time to be upfront & honest w/him, a straight up “my sexual desires aren’t being met & I need to know what that means for us as a couple”. Do your best not to overreact to his answers, but I would be blunt “do you not want a sexual relationship w/me anymore”, “could it be a medical issue”, “has our relationship fizzled out”. Maybe start the conversation by telling him that you still want him & want him to want you, so that way he might be a bit more relaxed & hopefully provide honest answers & not take offense, bc for some strange reason some men actually take offense, even if it’s out of their control, some are even too embarrassed to admit they need medical or mental health support, so be open & blunt, topics like this need at least one person to be mature enough not to shy away from specifics, but be sensitive at the same time so he can still recognize you as a supportive friend & partner who wants the best possible outcome for your relationship.

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