Since I was pregnant I started having second thoughts about my relationship with my partner. In my eyes he's changed, he wasn't there anymore for me, and I became anxious. I (well we) blamed it on the hormones, changes and all the financial and work stress. Well, now our kid is 15 months and I still having these worries, but somehow is even worse as I am more inclined now to just split up. I'm treating this on therapy, but my concern is about places I can refer to for help. I have a normal job, just getting paid a bit over minimum wage. We bought the house 2 years ago, so what is left on the mortgage is still a lot. We lived in a small village just outside Edinburgh, I have no friends or family here (I'm not from the UK), so I feel very lost and I don't know how to start this process on my own. I don't want to do anything impulsive, as I am still considering this step, that's why lawyers right now is not the first option as I would like to talk to someone who could help/guide women in this situation first.
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No advice sorry just wanted to send a big hug!

Maybe it’s worthwhile trying to go and speak to a counsellor first before you make any decisions? You don’t sound 100% sure that separation is what you want. I’ve found it really helpful in the past to go and speak to someone who is totally unbiased and just lay all my thoughts out on the table.
If I’ve picked that up wrong, then I apologise! When I went to separate with my husband I went to speak to a solicitor to find out how it all worked etc which was very helpful, but it did cost me £150 for that 15 min conversation 🥲

PM if you want. Kind in the same situation

Sending hugs 💕 wishing u the best
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