Am I being selfish?

So I started dating this guy at the end of January and I have two kids. He went into this relationship with plans already to get me pregnant because he wanted a family. We started being intimate about two months after dating, but I was still hesitant and uncomfortable and we started off using protection until one night. He didn’t. I honestly brushed it off and got nothing would happen because I was told by a few doctors that I could not get pregnant naturally since I had to do treatments before to conceive my second child. Well of course I got pregnant and this guy completely changed. He got lazy. He kind of got short tempered and he acts different with my kids. His family also makes me uncomfortable with some of the questions asked and the way they’re acting well today he told me he bought something for the baby off of marketplace and I just made the comment. What is it? He won’t tell me so I wrote back that I wish she would’ve told me because I’m picky with what I buy off there because you never know what type of Home it comes from and if they have pets, etc., am I being bitchy by stating my concerns? I’m already so torn with this pregnancy and being connected with this man anyhow.

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Girl I apologize but abort and get away from him he never cared about you or your kids he just wanted to lock you down for life to have you work for him I swear I'm not lying I knew this was going to go left as soon as you said he went in wanting to get you pregnant and he knew you had two kids no man does this unless they just trying to lock you down

Yikes . He sounds like a narcissist. They rush things and him getting you pregnant could be a way of trapping you if he sees you as someone he can use or benefit from having around

If you doubt whether he’s treating your right ask yourself if you’d be ok with your kids’ significant other treating them that way or talking to them that way.

And be careful because these ppl play the victim SO well just to condition you to do things they want or be how they want you to be. For example : him saying he feels so insecure about you always being on your phone because an ex was cheating on him when she was always texting so that he can get you to be like - no baby don’t worry here, Heres my password you can go through my phone whenever you want. Boom. He’s able to delete friends and messages from your apps, read who you try and vent to IF you’re venting to anyone etc

Oh narcissists definitely use the kids as leverage as well to hold control over a person. Not because they care about the kid(they don’t, they literally physically can’t care about anyone else) but just to hurt ppl and make them do things they want

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Im a stay at home mom to an almost 6mo old. Im either reading, playing with the baby, or snuggling. I run off caffeine and cursing.

Don’t really have anyone in my corner, would be nice to have people to talk to that can understand me lol

Am I a bad mom for this?

Lately, my sex life with my partner is the best its ever been. I’ve been begging him for more, and honestly I kinda feel like a dog in heat. I’m craving it all day, its all I can think about, I just want him deep inside me at all times. He thinks its kinda funny that I’m like this all of a sudden but its driving me crazy! We’ve had some very primal sex recently and I think its unleashed something in me. But the part that I’m questioning, is being naughty while the kids are awake/around. For example, I’m walking around with a butt plug in and its just normal lunch time for us. Is this wrong to do? Should I only do it after theyre in bed? Does it make me a bad mom? On any normal day the kids probably see their dad grabbing/groping me in some form(hes a very handsy affectionate- loves ass/boob grabs on me) but they havent seen more than that. Part of me feels guilty but part of me wants to embrace the fact I finally feel good/confident sexually.

religious and atheists, can you be friends with someone who doesn't share your beliefs, but isn't trying to make you think the same way as them either?

1. yes I can, as long as we don't talk about it
2. yes I can, and I love to debate about religion politely and respectfully
3. nope, my beliefs and world vision are more important to me
4. no, I don't like to surround myself with people who think differently

how to deal with childless bsf giving unsolicited advice

I'm not confrontational nor conflictive at all, I hate to put boundaries as well. If it is for my baby is easy, but for me isn't.
My bsf is in a total different stage of life, and I don't know if it's bc I'm a young mom (we are both 22), but she's always giving me tips and advice of how to take care of my baby. She babysitted a 6mo ONCE and she thinks she knows more than me. I know she probably doesn't have bad intentions, and just want to help, but I'm so done with it.
Yesterday she said I need more time out with girlfriends, and that I should leave my baby (6 months) with his dad and go out for a drink. Again, I know she had good intentions, but 1. I get awfully anxious when I've been apart from my baby. 2. he co-sleeps with me, and will only fall asleep with my boob. 3. I think she's right about seeing my friends more, and getting out, but I'd love to be able to do so with my baby. He's so calm and social, and am of my friend love him and like to spend time with us, no one had asked me to leave him at home.
What should I do????

IS THIS GAY?

Is a man sucking a dildo gay? For context my boyf sucked it during foreplay and I was a bit taken back but he started to say this doesn’t make me gay repeatedly but then still sucked it.

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