Mum in law making descions without consulting us

My mother in law is looking after my kids whilst we attend a family wedding on my side for 2 nights. She’s very good with the kids.
Tonight my husband phone her to confirm they were dropping the kids home on Sunday and her reply was ohh aunty and uncle are bringing them back 2hour drive) my youngest isn’t very good in the car, aunty and uncle although good with kids don’t have kids of their own and have only met the youngest once, they won’t know how to calm the baby etc. am I wrong for being pissed off that mother in law didn’t run it by us and just assumed it would be okay?

in our community

Am I over reacting?!

I’ve been back to work, and DD in nursery for 3 weeks. She does 2 days. My husband drops her off and my mam usually collects her around 3pm.

Firstly, I have nappies and wipes in her bag so my mam has some when she picks her up. Nursery has the option to use their own nappies and wipes to which I said yes. They keep using the ones in the bag and asking us to send in more. I’ve told them twice now that they should be using nursery ones.

Today, when my mam collected her, she said her face was covered in snot and my mam had to ask for the wipes (which had been taken out of her bag) so she could wipe her face. When I’ve picked her up from my mams, she’s got a dummy which isn’t hers and her dirty clothes aren’t in her bag. Her dummy clip is always missing too.

Am I over reacting to call them tomorrow and tell them again to stop using the nappies/wipes in her bag and that she’s often not coming home with everything she should be.

I just don’t want to be THAT parent 🤦🏻‍♀️

Nursery

I have really bad enxiety and usually try to avoid conflict as much as possible but my LO has come back from nursery with the nappy on the wrong way round and half way up her bum am I over reacting or should I say something? ( it has happened multiple times now )

Child protection services

Has anyone ever had their daycare center ring child protection services on them for your children (3yr & 1yr) having bruises? Did the daycare consult with you about where the brusing come from or straight up right child protection services.
Would you change daycare centers or keep at the same place?

I want to change as it has hurt me they couldn't ask me to start with and just straight up rang cps.

Is it just us?! Is it just me !?!

My partner is great in many ways but one thing that causes issues with us is the spend on the children. He says they don't need things and because he doesn't think they need them I foot the bill. This is the same for clothes , shoes, birthdays etc. He is naturally more frugal than me and in some ways I get it.

But I'm just annoyed that it's either the kids go without or I pay for it. They are by no means spoilt. We have had very different upbringings.

Does anyone else have a similar issue. Not sure how to navigate it, we need to as it's a recurring argument.

My nan pressuring me to potty train my son

He’ll be 3 in a couple months and she says as he’ll be starting nursery soon that he needs to be potty trained before then and started trying to give ideas.

But we have tried and even got 3 potties in our house (one that goes on the toilet and 2 floor ones), he has never had any interest in them and we have been trying to sit him in them (sometimes not the most consistent I will admit) and he screams.

We have done the no nappy on at all and that just ended up with him peeing 7 times on the floor and we were trying to catch him to go on the potty too, but nothing. At one point he even went to splash in it and even had poop down his leg.

Zero interest in going on the potty, if he’s distracted and sat on it and does eventually pee in it, he doesn’t react to any praise and has even cried because he did pee.

I’ve even tried to say he can get a sticker if he goes toilet on the potty and that didn’t work.

Is it ok if I want to hang with the mom but not her kid......

From my child's preschool there was a girl we had a playdate with and I click well with her mom but our kids don't have a good time. Both playdates, her child wouldn't say hi to my daughter, then ran off, she came back then she wanted to play. Then during play while we're watching them she said my child hit her with a tree branch. My child was literally sitting down on the ground on the other side nowhere near her . At the end my daughter gave her a hug and this child stood there with her arms to her side and looking off in the distance. My child looked so hurt, I absolutely will not do that again. But I like her Mom, can I ask her for lunch or just let them go. ?