Text message draft to MIL

I hate confrontation but for my own mental health, I feel I need to send this to my MIL. Would appreciate your thoughts before I send?

Hi XXX, I really appreciate you looking after XXX on Wednesdays, but I wanted to mention something so that our relationship can remain positive moving forward.

A few comments about our parenting choices recently have left me feeling like I need to defend our decisions as parents. For example, comments about his diet like “babybels are the worst thing you can possibly give him” and “sweetcorn has no nutritional value”, comparisons around breastfeeding timelines, suggestions about offering him cool drinks when he’s asking for milk, and comments about car seats such as “he’ll have to forward face soon or he’ll feel sick / it won’t be good for his hips.”

We make our parenting decisions carefully based on current guidance and research, so I’d really appreciate it if you could avoid giving unsolicited advice or negative commentary about our choices going forward. Thank you.

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Am I over reacting?!

I’ve been back to work, and DD in nursery for 3 weeks. She does 2 days. My husband drops her off and my mam usually collects her around 3pm.

Firstly, I have nappies and wipes in her bag so my mam has some when she picks her up. Nursery has the option to use their own nappies and wipes to which I said yes. They keep using the ones in the bag and asking us to send in more. I’ve told them twice now that they should be using nursery ones.

Today, when my mam collected her, she said her face was covered in snot and my mam had to ask for the wipes (which had been taken out of her bag) so she could wipe her face. When I’ve picked her up from my mams, she’s got a dummy which isn’t hers and her dirty clothes aren’t in her bag. Her dummy clip is always missing too.

Am I over reacting to call them tomorrow and tell them again to stop using the nappies/wipes in her bag and that she’s often not coming home with everything she should be.

I just don’t want to be THAT parent 🤦🏻‍♀️

Is it just us?! Is it just me !?!

My partner is great in many ways but one thing that causes issues with us is the spend on the children. He says they don't need things and because he doesn't think they need them I foot the bill. This is the same for clothes , shoes, birthdays etc. He is naturally more frugal than me and in some ways I get it.

But I'm just annoyed that it's either the kids go without or I pay for it. They are by no means spoilt. We have had very different upbringings.

Does anyone else have a similar issue. Not sure how to navigate it, we need to as it's a recurring argument.

Am I wrong for this?

My husband and I gained a lot of weight in a short amount of time since having daughter. I was pregnant so I feel like the weight I gained is different but anyways I’ve been really trying to watch what I eat and push myself to get up and move as much as possible. My daughter is very energetic so I’m pretty much chasing after her all day, I go on walks sometimes twice a day to the park and around the block before i put her to bed. I also clean our apartment and I do all this with littke to no sleep. My daughter wakes up multiple times a night and I have to help go back to sleep. I’m exhausted and so sleep deprived all the time making it really hard to get up in the morning so I have him do it. I say all this because I’m trying to encourage my husband to be more active, walk with us and eat better cause I’m genuinely worried about his health and his excuse is always “I’m tired” “I got up early with her and did errands I want to rest” I tell him that I’m exhausted too but I’m pushing myself cause I’m tired of being lazy and unhealthy and he just complains how he needs rest. He also is constantly overbearing and buying unhealthy stuff no matter how much I try to get him to stop. He’s just so stubborn and I hate seeing him like this. But on the other hand maybe I am asking too much or being rude about it?? Idk.

Depressed

Just found out my boyfriend won’t get out of jail for our daughter’s birth ( my first child / pregnancy ) I feel so upset and bothered about it. I’m his second baby mama and he got to experience his first child with her ( btw I don’t have any problems with her also they only co parent and don’t even talk) I just can’t help but to feel sad about the fact I’ve been doing this alone . I’m due August 13th and he’s getting out September 05 . Having to deal with not having a baby shower planned yet ( planning it now with my sisters and bestfriend ) also not having money for the phone, being unprepared with everything too as well as having to pay my obygn. It’s literally so hard. I’m so overwhelmed , I love him but I will always remember he missed out .

Uses me to "relax"

My husband uses my body as relaxation or a "sleep aid" and it's getting more and more annoying. If he cant get to sleep, he will want to screw me. After we're done he falls fast asleep. Once I didnt go into the room because I knew what he wanted and he started huffing and puffing. Im just over it. He wants sex too often for my liking anyways. I just feel used, like an appliance that cooks, cleans and that he sticks his penis in every other day(it would be everyday if he had his way). Im just venting...idk how to even handle this situation because I let it go on for so long smh.

I'm lost

my boyfriend for the past 3 years has watched porn. I've told him time and time again that I consider it cheating, it feels the same if someone sent him nudes instead he's just searching it. recently he swore on our son he wasn't doing that again, but today I checked his history without him knowing and it goes back to Feburary of him doing this. I'm lost at this point. I don't know what else to do. I'm also a stay at home mom and don't have resources to leave. but I'm done being lied to. and I want to mention, if he wants something I give it to him. even if I'm tired or sick or whatever.