Mom guilt

I’m having the worst mom guilt. My baby is 2 months and struggling to sleep at night because she is gassy. She is overly tired and sleepy. I can get her to sleep and I try to get to sleep but 45 minutes later she is up making disconfirmed sounds and she needs to burp. I get her to burp then she hungry all over again. So then the process starts ALL over again. I burp her thoroughly and give her gas relief medicine. And this process goes on till well after midnight and we started at 8:30. So I start to get frustrated and I’m tired and al I want to do is sleep. I try not to wake her dad but he wakes up to help because he can hear me getting frustrated. I try not to be which make me feel horrible but idk what to do anymore.

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Girl, im in the same boat! Just got my little one to sleep

It’s okay to feel how you feel. It’s so hard.

I’m not sure what kind of gas relief medicine you’re giving your little one. I was giving my little one Mylicon and was struggling. We switched to gripe water and put it in her last bottle before going down and it really helped ease her tummy. She’s 9 mos now and we still give it to her every now and then as she’s transitioning to solids to help with her digestion.

Sending warm and positive thoughts for you and your little one to have peace soon✨

You sound like an amazing and dedicated mum so I’m not sure why you feel mum guilt. There’s nothing you could do, and getting frustrated is natural, as long as we don’t take the frustrations out on the baby that’s nothing feel guilty about.

It is just a phase and it will pass, but some suggestions in the meantime:

Get your husband to do as much as this as possible (all of it if bottle fed) from 8.30-11pm to give you time to sleep. I try let my husband sleep too, but he can’t have perfect sleep as he has a baby so he pitches in even though I do the majority.

I wonder if there’s anything you can do so that she’s not so windy. I live in UK and there is a free baby Feeding clinic every week I can go to, I wonder if there’s something like that in your area? It could be the way a bottle is held for example. My little one had lots of gas because he had a cold and was breastfeeding and it was gasping for air between sucks - not much I can do apart from spraying saline up his nose x

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