Fight with husband

My husband yelled at me today. Literally let it all out and said that I’m dumb and need to get my shit together basically that I never do shit for the house and he does everything but that I resent him because he doesn’t have boob milk to give to our baby and I’m 5 years old because I freeze and shut down in confrontation and can’t make decisions on the spot.

Back story….
I told him a while back I was feeling a little resentment because I was the one doing all the feeds and wake ups at night for the past 2 years now with our baby this year and now toddler last year he tried helping for a few days then it went back to the same…
I’ve been a SAHM he just recently retired and is now home. He gets mad whenever I try and do anything and tells me to just take care of the kids. When he started staying home it was you take care of the baby and I will the toddler which always still left me with both since he did everything else because he doesn’t like how I do anything.
I feel so unheard and unseen and like everything I did tell him was just twisted. He always is right and everyone else is wrong and dumb I have to constantly hear him complaining when we go out about other drivers and people and he constantly tells my oldest she’s dumb which sometimes yes but she’s just a kid at the same time…
I know I need to work on freezing and shutting down and I am very indecisive I am not saying I’m perfect but am I at fault? I’m just really thinking about it all and idk what I’m doing anymore or what to think of any to ing I need an outside opinion….

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Advise please

This is a sensitive topic hence incognito. My daughter has told me my husband (her step dad) was looking at her when she was showering. I’ve spoken to him about it and he said he walked in accidentally and that was it, but my daughter is claiming there’s more to it. She says he lingered in the bathroom and he was just there staring when she turned around, which isn’t how he described the whole thing, he made it seem like he just accidentally walked in and left. I don’t know who to believe or where to go from here. My daughter is 14, she got a history of mental problems. My husband and her don’t have much of a relationship, they’ve never seen eye to eye but he’s never done anything which would suggest he sees her as anything other than his step child. This all came out last week and my daughter is currently staying at my mother’s house while I work this out with my husband, but I’m still at a loss on what to do here am feel my daughter is expecting something extreme to happen and I’m just not sure this is worth my marriage as it could all just be a misunderstanding.

Please be kind in the comments. I’m looking for advice from parents who dealt with something similar, not judgements or unhelpful remarks.

Is this controlling?

My husband got upset over a TikTok I sent about how mums still mentally carry their kids even when they’re away from them. Instead of telling me directly, he acted distant all morning, and I later found out he’d been venting to ChatGPT about how annoying he found the video. He’s also previously said he doesn’t think married women should be out late because he’s “old fashioned,” although later he’ll say he was joking and tell me to enjoy myself. Would you see this as controlling/invalidating behaviour, or am I overreacting? How would this dynamic make you feel?

Do you/could you leave the house without telling your partner your away?

Seen a video and it got me thinking 🤷 does it work both ways?

Omllll

Just a rant because I HATE cleaning up food after dinner it makes me feel sick but I don’t want him to feel like there’s something wrong with textures but omgggg it’s horrible 🤢😵‍💫

I am absolutely and completely tired of this.
WWYD?

I have 3 children, all under 7 years old, my youngest child is almost 2 years old I have tried everything to prevent this area where we eat to be sanitary right? I have changed the dining area twice, I removed his high chair because I wasn’t getting help from my spouse cleaning it!! not the tray, he would carelessly be leaving the mess for me to clean everything up, he doesn’t wipe down the tables after meals so it remains dirty! I have placed a carpet that is easy to clean under the tables we have had in this dining area and so i can vacuum it however even with all these changes I’ve been trying to make everything easier on myself . my husband constantly continues to leave me to clean up the mess after the kids eat but he constantly asks me for sex! he will leave the mess, have sex with me and go to work like 30 minutes early the last straw was yesterday. I really don’t know what to do anymore, I cook because it’s healthier and easier to feed 3 kids with home cooked meals but my husband is not listening at all to what I am saying. I am tired of it. I need advice. I’m tired of being treated like a maid this is just 1 out of 10 other things I do in the home by myself. I told him off so bad last night and he didn’t come home after work.

When to give Calpol

How long do you hold out on giving Calpol for teething? My LO is 5 months and has no visible teeth coming through but is so desperate to chew on anything, getting very fussy and making a sort of constant whining sound. He won't be put down and is also pretty unhappy being carried. Today Is definitely the worst it's been. Is this Calpol time??