Am I overreacting

Im a therapist and my client recently told me he felt like his wife didn't care about the passing of his dad either.
Turns out , she was trying to hive him space and tried not to bring it up in case it hurts him. Where he wanted to speak about his dad and often because he missed him. She woukd brush it under the carpet and talk it away.

All he had to do was tell her how he felt about it all and communicated to her that he wanted to talk about his dad etc.

So often its just misunderstandings.
He thinks he is taking the kids away for football to maybe give you space as you might be overwhelmed.

You've been cropping everything inside you.

Dont lash iut at him he is probably thinking he is doing the best for you out of love.

So have a nice conversation with him. Dont blame him etc.

Start with...


You make me feel .....


E.g. you make me feel angry because you left with the kids.

Instead of saying I am so angry because xyz.

If you say YOU MAKE ME FEEL rather than I Am., it won't have his back up and conversation woukd be much easier.
You are not blaming. Blaming him. You are just voicing to him how the whole situation is making you feel.


Good luck hon.

Im so sorry for your loss.

Hi thank you, I will use this approach but he left me to go football with his friends not take them to football. My little ones couldn't understand why I was crying because they are so young and I couldn't control myself from crying

So sorry for your loss

I remember when I had a miscarriage between my first and second baby. Their Dad 2 hours later went to work. I was at home like wtaf! 2 years later we ended up splitting up. I get people grieve differently but crikey. Wasnt down to that we split. Turns out since ive been doing counselling hes actually very abusive. Knew he was taking the pee a bit but 😬 wasnt till he left did i know the full extent. If I ever brought something up he had it as bad or worse. Never supportive. So treated him the same way 👌 Stopped doing a lot of the wifey shit too. He didn't do too bad adjusting to "women's work" either 😉😂 oh yeah in this day and age that was used. He did the manly thing and cut the grass once in a blue moon. Inside jobs are for the women